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Nov 08, 2009 17:12

I was watching a documentary that ricky lake did on child birth - kinda like hospital birth vs. home birth and midwives - and it made me think to ask, did anyone feel "cheated" out of their child birth experience? Like, maybe you wanted a natural childbirth with little or no intervention and ended up having to get a c-section or unwanted ( Read more... )

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rhiannasilel November 8 2009, 22:22:11 UTC

My son is 7 now and I was induced with cervadil and pitocin at 37 weeks. I had an epidural, as well, so while it was still a vaginal birth it was definitely a birth with a lot of interventions. The funny thing is I didn't regret it at the time, but I do now that I'm pregnant with my second. I think some of it is that I really feel a bit bothered by a possible link between pitocin inductions and autism (my son is on the spectrum). This time around, I'm still having a hospital birth, but a birth with a midwife practice that believes in as little intervention as possible. A home birth isn't really practical for me because of the size and layout of my place. I also have a lot of animals most of which live in the living room and that's the only room, honestly, that would accommodate something like a birthing tub. My puggle thinks she's supposed to be on me or next to me every waking moment of the day and screams if I'm downstairs and we have to put her in her crate for some reason. It's just generally not a good place for me to have ( ... )

stretchypants November 8 2009, 22:26:51 UTC

my girl is almost 7 months I forgot to add. I'm not planning to get pregnant again but if I did, the whole c-section thing kinda ruins it because now they say since I had a c-section the rest of my births would have to be c-sections. kinda sux

rainshowers November 8 2009, 22:33:47 UTC

Well, I had a c section as well and I'm trying for a VBAC this time around. You don't nessecarily HAVE to have a c section, so unless there's something medically wrong with you or your pregnancy, I wouldn't listen to anyone who said that. It may be difficult to find a doctor/midwife/obgyn/etc who will let you try, but I think it's worth the effort. :-)

sandi1743 November 8 2009, 23:14:03 UTC

what was the reason for the section?

stretchypants November 9 2009, 00:07:53 UTC

they said her head was facing the wrong direction like its supposed to be facing the butt and it was facing up or vice versa. and they said I had a small pelvis and her head was swollen and it'd be too difficult and take too long to push out and could put the baby under unnecessary stress. and they'd have to give me pitocin to make the contractions stronger. I was 9cm dilated though so I probably could've pushed her out. just no one wants to hear that they would be putting their baby under unnecessary stress just to have things their way. now I wish I had a standing birth. it would've probably been easier

sandi1743 November 9 2009, 01:43:57 UTC

oh sweetie, i am so sorry - have you considered talking to someone - ICAN would be a good place to start.
*hugs*

stretchypants November 9 2009, 02:20:43 UTC

not really, this is all the talking I've done on the whole birthing thing for me lol but I'm just glad everything came out ok and shes happy and healthy :)

sandi1743 November 9 2009, 13:51:57 UTC

well - we all have to decide what we want - while i may have personal thoughts on feels on decisions i am not the one that has to live another persons life and nor should i (or anyone else) project their personal feels on to others. If you are happy with the outcome than that is all that anyone can ask.

zombriii November 9 2009, 04:26:41 UTC

My son was face up and didn't turn his head until he crowned, he came out of my small pelvis with his big head facing my thigh.

It sounds like they set you up for "pit to distress" I'm sorry. :(

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stretchypants November 9 2009, 00:08:40 UTC

sorri I dont know what VBAC is. must google.... :P

stretchypants November 9 2009, 00:11:16 UTC

nevermind looked it up, now I feel dumb :P but thnx lol

rhiannasilel November 9 2009, 01:37:16 UTC

You can sometimes find doctors that will do VBACs, if you look around. It also depends on the hospital that you give birth at.

yelena_r0ssini November 10 2009, 05:22:51 UTC

"They" are dumbasses. I mean, it's water under the bridge since you're not having any more kids but really, that whole "once a section always a section" nonsense has been disproven by evidence-based medicine for decades now. I had a great intervention-free VBAC with my second...

yelena_r0ssini November 10 2009, 05:26:45 UTC

OH and my VBAC baby was posterior, I had back labor for a gazillion hours, and she shot out like a little rocket when the time was right. So "they" are doubly dumbasses.

If it's bothering you, you might want to check out birthtrauma; it's a wonderfully supportive place to work through tough feelings about your birth experience.

stretchypants November 10 2009, 16:22:02 UTC

I wouldnt say the birth was traumatic - I think I handled it pretty well actually. Just the whole expectation to bond immediately was disappointing and bothered me for a bit. I was ok with the thought of a c-section but when it was actually in the process that just seemed down right brutal. My family and friends say "I can't believe that cute little thing came out of you" (teasingly of course) and I tell them I didnt give birth to her, they cut me open and ripped her from my womb. o.O
but thnx for the link, I'll give it a looksy :)

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