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[deanarae]

I'm 13 weeks today, and I still don't feel any sort of connection to my pregnancy. I don't feel like I'm really pregnant - I just feel like it's some words that I say, or a maybe a new hobby that I've taken up (reading about pregnancy). I am dealing with untreated (at the moment, because I stopped my medications when I found out I was pregnant)

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[mela_chan]

I'm 26, this is my fourth pregnancy but the second to go to term. I didn't really feel 'connected' until I could feel the little one squirming around in there. Now that I know his habits and he's starting to exhibit some personality, I am definitely very attached! For me, the worry eased especially after I hit 24 weeks and he was officially viable - we had two early miscarriages (at 6 and 8 weeks), and I think that really contributed - I was scared I would lose this baby as well.

I think it's normal not to feel any sort of connection or attachment until a bit later. Many women don't, for a lot of reasons. Even if you're morning sick and tender and have all the symptoms, it doesn't seem real until you can see and feel how it is real. With my first pregnancy, my daughter, I remember thinking I was going to wake up and find out I'd been dreaming, or someone was going to call me and basically go "HAHAHA We're joking you're not really pregnant!" Obviously, that didn't happen...but it was something that occured to me from time to

[joleine]

Honestly, I didn't start really "connecting" with the baby until about a week ago.. and I'm 24w4d. Even when we saw the baby on the screen at the big ultrasound, I still wasn't very emotionally connected. Last week however, she wasn't kicking/moving/bouncing around during her normal time, and it freaked me right out.. as soon as she started up again... I instantly felt super connected. It also helps that my husband (who previously to my getting pregnant, wasn't even sure he wanted kids) has been super emotional and "attached" to the baby lately :)

[karmapearl]

I don't think you're abnormal. It took me a while to really "get" the whole pregnant thing. This is my 2nd pregnancy; my first ended in miscarriage and this baby was VERY MUCH tried for (it took us nearly a year to conceive) and I was just beyond thrilled when I discovered I was pregnant. I think my detachment came from trying to protect myself from another emotional heartbreak if things hadn't worked out with this baby

[zebrapants]

Hahaha I had sex and now I am growing a person in me.

[rainshowers]

I don't feel pregnant at all. If not for wanting to eat alot, I would forget.

But I don't mind it because with my son my pregnancy was horrible and I was vomiting every 2 seconds lol.