Whoa.. ok i just want to say that I'm really really sorry. I seem to have offended pretty much everyone on here and now I just feel really crap. I was only saying what I felt, I'm sorry if that makes me 'judgemental'. I'm sorry for using words/labels or voicing dominant perceptions (gay culture is predominantly seen as femme) - I never said it actually is. That's why I put the word stereotypical....
Not sure what else to say, I obviously can't speak without offending people. Sorry
I don't see a lot of offended people in these comments. Just one or two people objecting to one or two ideas you seemed stuck on, and those ideas are holding you back. Anyway, you've apologized, so you can move on and look at the positive advice people are giving you.
I can understand not feeling like you can relate to gay men, especially if you don't know many. I just watched The Butch Factor about butch gay male masculinities, and found it interesting. Perhaps you'd identify with the sporty types who only found their "type" in gay male sports league, but otherwise feel alienated from what they perceive as "typical gay" men. What I notice about the way those men describe their coming-to-terms with themselves, is that the perception that there is a certain thing that is gay and that is "other" than them, is harmful to them, even now that they accept themselves.
Hey there, I pretty much ID with your post and what you're saying... again, I guess I'm repeating what people above me have said, but I do think the best option here is just be confident in yourself; you don't have to feel like everyone else and that's perfectly OK
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Totally agree with this. On some levels i identify strongly with the stereotypical gay community but when i'm in certain moods it's just all a bit too much for me. I don't want to "rage" all the time. As my gender identity matured i found myself very alienated from the stereotypical trans community too because of that constant focus on playing the part and passing... These days i simply be myself and wear what i like. Sometimes i'm read as gay, sometimes straight, sometimes male, sometimes female, but really at the end of the day none of it matters except that i feel happy in me.
Hey paz_kid, Thank you for taking the time to write this. It's really good to know I'm not alone in feeling this way. I like that you say, your gender might not be that evident until you tell someone.. I can relate a lot to that. I think I'm possibly bi-curious but not totally sure about anything atm 2bh!,maybe that's something else to explore lol.. Thanks again for your comments. :)
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I was only saying what I felt, I'm sorry if that makes me 'judgemental'. I'm sorry for using words/labels or voicing dominant perceptions (gay culture is predominantly seen as femme) - I never said it actually is. That's why I put the word stereotypical....
Not sure what else to say, I obviously can't speak without offending people.
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I can understand not feeling like you can relate to gay men, especially if you don't know many. I just watched The Butch Factor about butch gay male masculinities, and found it interesting. Perhaps you'd identify with the sporty types who only found their "type" in gay male sports league, but otherwise feel alienated from what they perceive as "typical gay" men. What I notice about the way those men describe their coming-to-terms with themselves, is that the perception that there is a certain thing that is gay and that is "other" than them, is harmful to them, even now that they accept themselves.
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Thank you for taking the time to write this. It's really good to know I'm not alone in feeling this way. I like that you say, your gender might not be that evident until you tell someone.. I can relate a lot to that. I think I'm possibly bi-curious but not totally sure about anything atm 2bh!,maybe that's something else to explore lol..
Thanks again for your comments.
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