Confused Ramblings!
Ok here goes,
First I just want to say that I think this community is great. It's full of options and inspiration and I love that.
As for my situation- I'm 22, biologically female, and so far, apart from cutting my hair short, I haven't done much in the way of change. Internally I feel like a sensitive/feminine male. I recently joined a group on Experience Project where people were telling stories of feeling like a 'gay man in a woman's body'. I'm not entirely sure I relate to that, but it's pretty close, if that makes sense. As far as I'm aware I like guys.. but only sensitive ones. Not the alpha/macho kind of guy. I can't relate to that at all..
But I also can't relate to being gay or particularly fancying gay guys.. (at least not stereotypically gay guys). So where does this leave me? A sensitive straight guy who likes guys?!
I more or less told my parents this recently, and they were amazingly supportive. They just keep telling me to 'be myself' and I totally get this, this IS the right thing to do. Gender Schmender.. none of it really makes a great deal of sense to me anyway.. !! but my problem is society and the labels they put on people. I actually hate going out with my 'girl' friends at the moment because it just feels so... odd, I don't get the whole faffing around with what to wear/what not to wear lol, and texting each other to find out what each other is wearing! lol! I just don't get it!
I'm starting to become incredibly frustrated and miserable. I would be eternally grateful for any advice or mature perspectives on this? Also, is there any way that I could dress more 'male' without being seen as a lesbian? (sorry to be stereotypically but we all know the stereotypes and yes I do look like a lesbian currently!).
Thank you so much for your time and sorry about the ramblings!! :D
First I just want to say that I think this community is great. It's full of options and inspiration and I love that.
As for my situation- I'm 22, biologically female, and so far, apart from cutting my hair short, I haven't done much in the way of change. Internally I feel like a sensitive/feminine male. I recently joined a group on Experience Project where people were telling stories of feeling like a 'gay man in a woman's body'. I'm not entirely sure I relate to that, but it's pretty close, if that makes sense. As far as I'm aware I like guys.. but only sensitive ones. Not the alpha/macho kind of guy. I can't relate to that at all..
But I also can't relate to being gay or particularly fancying gay guys.. (at least not stereotypically gay guys). So where does this leave me? A sensitive straight guy who likes guys?!
I more or less told my parents this recently, and they were amazingly supportive. They just keep telling me to 'be myself' and I totally get this, this IS the right thing to do. Gender Schmender.. none of it really makes a great deal of sense to me anyway.. !! but my problem is society and the labels they put on people. I actually hate going out with my 'girl' friends at the moment because it just feels so... odd, I don't get the whole faffing around with what to wear/what not to wear lol, and texting each other to find out what each other is wearing! lol! I just don't get it!
I'm starting to become incredibly frustrated and miserable. I would be eternally grateful for any advice or mature perspectives on this? Also, is there any way that I could dress more 'male' without being seen as a lesbian? (sorry to be stereotypically but we all know the stereotypes and yes I do look like a lesbian currently!).
Thank you so much for your time and sorry about the ramblings!! :D