Nope. I divorced. But I paid for it and he didn’t have anything so I said we’re splitting up the clothes we bought together, he could keep the car, what I came with is mine, I’m deducting your exorbitant weed budget and then we split the account. (He was horrible with money, had an $800 a month weed habit and was overall an idiot and was lucky I didn’t have him fired because I got him a job at my friend’s restaurant and he told me he would get rid of him if I wanted) lol. And still tries to hit me up on Facebook messenger 14 years later. Boy BYE.
Anyway, all of my breakups have been very mundane but a friend of mine dated a guy for 3 years, did all kinds of crazy, difficult, expensive shit for him, thought they'd be getting married soon like the woman above, and then he messaged her saying "I'm calling things off because you've always been like a sister to me". She was just like, "a SISTER... who you FUCK??" lmao. They didn't even know each other before they got together so it was an especially weird thing to say. It later transpired that he'd cheated on her on holiday with a teenager so she dodged a bullet there.
a guy said something similar to me during a breakup and I said something similar back lmao. i’m convinced most men don’t understand what emotional intimacy is and can’t handle it when they have only ever objectified women their whole life outside their immediate family
My ex and I moved into an apt together, we both signed the lease. Two years later we break up somewhat unexpectantly and he decides to move to a different state, takes a few things but leaves the rest (furniture, computer parts, exercise equipment, assorted clutter, etc.) for me to deal with because he was a lazy SOB. I had to move to my own (cheaper) place and spent weeks getting rid of and selling the stuff Salvation Army refused to take. I was young and naive and stupid. I'll probably stay single the rest of my life, but in the rare event I meet someone and we get serious... I don't know how I feel about living with anyone I'm in a relationship with again.
There was a ton of emotional abuse and neglect before then.
On the one hand, I don't want one asshole to keep you from trusting future partners. But on the other hand, my grandmother was very happy having a long term committed relationship but never moving in with her partner. He asked her to marry him and she was like nah, let's just keep things the way they are (specifically because she wanted to keep living by herself). What I learned from that was you don't need to be married or cohabitate if you don't want to!
The societal expectation is that once you find a partner, you're supposed to live together but I think a lot of couples would be happier if they had their own spaces. Think of how much less people would fight or passive aggressively grumble about the other person's habits or get aggravated about having to clean up after the other person if they just had their own spaces. That way, the messy person can be messy and the neat person can be neat. You each get to stay at your ideal comfort level.
I flew to Chicago to meet a guy I met online and got close to during peak COVID lockdown only for him to ghost me a few weeks later LMAO. I've told that story before, though, and he texted me after Helene to check on me, ghosted me again, then randomly texted me when he is obviously bored and my dumb ass hasn't blocked him yet.
I uh... also might have learned Dutch for a guy I met online once (from the Eindhoven area) and got waaaay too invested in but that's fine because I can say "I speak terrible Dutch!" now. Turns out he was just a flat-out asshole in the end and I am happy I got to tell him that since he didn't actually ghost me. I can watch Dutch/Flemish stuff now and comment on how terrible the subtitle quality is and little more.
There's an Instagram I always see which is this guy doing comedy skits about the Dutch and how they're basically all assholes. I'm glad you got away from that dude.
I live in that area, more people than common have autism here because of the history of the city (technological stuff). No excuse (having autism) for treating you like a dick of course. <3
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Not only is this dude a dick, you just blasted y'all's business all over the internet. It ain't happening sis.
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Anyway, all of my breakups have been very mundane but a friend of mine dated a guy for 3 years, did all kinds of crazy, difficult, expensive shit for him, thought they'd be getting married soon like the woman above, and then he messaged her saying "I'm calling things off because you've always been like a sister to me". She was just like, "a SISTER... who you FUCK??" lmao. They didn't even know each other before they got together so it was an especially weird thing to say. It later transpired that he'd cheated on her on holiday with a teenager so she dodged a bullet there.
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I get where she's coming from tbh - getting the rug pulled out from under you from a guy you think you love/do love is the worst mindfuck possible.
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There was a ton of emotional abuse and neglect before then.
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On the one hand, I don't want one asshole to keep you from trusting future partners. But on the other hand, my grandmother was very happy having a long term committed relationship but never moving in with her partner. He asked her to marry him and she was like nah, let's just keep things the way they are (specifically because she wanted to keep living by herself). What I learned from that was you don't need to be married or cohabitate if you don't want to!
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The societal expectation is that once you find a partner, you're supposed to live together but I think a lot of couples would be happier if they had their own spaces. Think of how much less people would fight or passive aggressively grumble about the other person's habits or get aggravated about having to clean up after the other person if they just had their own spaces. That way, the messy person can be messy and the neat person can be neat. You each get to stay at your ideal comfort level.
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I flew to Chicago to meet a guy I met online and got close to during peak COVID lockdown only for him to ghost me a few weeks later LMAO. I've told that story before, though, and he texted me after Helene to check on me, ghosted me again, then randomly texted me when he is obviously bored and my dumb ass hasn't blocked him yet.
I uh... also might have learned Dutch for a guy I met online once (from the Eindhoven area) and got waaaay too invested in but that's fine because I can say "I speak terrible Dutch!" now. Turns out he was just a flat-out asshole in the end and I am happy I got to tell him that since he didn't actually ghost me. I can watch Dutch/Flemish stuff now and comment on how terrible the subtitle quality is and little more.
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He was also on the autism spectrum which did not help things and he used that as an excuse for being a dick.
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