I often think about how extremely famous they became at such a young age, and the fact that it feels like they were one of the first like… super popular bands in the age of social media. The amount of access fans had to them in the beginning was absolutely insane, and I cannot imagine it being healthy for anyone. Combine that with how young they were, and it feels like a recipe for disaster.
And add to that, that they weren't surrounded by people who had their best interests in mind, just saw them as a cash cow. I never really followed them post X Factor but remember how they would be on world tours for months and if they weren't touring, they were in recodring studios.
It's honestly a testament to how kids/teens are not equipped to be thrown into these adult environments, no matter how much they dream about becoming an entertainer. There are barely any safeguards in place and even supportive parents are often not well informed to navigate these spaces.
and if they weren't touring, they were in recodring studios.
If I remember correctly, they didn't even get this. It was that WHILE they toured, they were also recording during the day and basically would get no breaks cause the second tour ended, it was time to promote the new album
As someone who doesn’t follow the ins and outs of one direction in particular but pays attention to celeb news it seems like this all happened so fast? I saw a post here about him acting messy at a concert after not hearing anything about him for a long time, then a post about his ex lawyering up and then a death announcement. It’s so shocking. I can’t even imagine how his family and friends are feeling
This whole thing has raised so many feelings in me that I haven't been able to articulate.
The people around him and his fans mourning maybe not his current self, but the version they knew and how that can be valid. The posts from Zayn and Louis made me cry. But also how all that grief and immortalization of him as a good person can be difficult for those he hurt to hear.
Then you have the consumption of not only people but teenagers as a form of celebrity. This very 2015 tumblr post recirculated on my dash today and it really dug into parts of it. It's a miracle any of them are even a fraction of well adjusted when you think about it
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“The version they knew”- this is exactly how I felt with Aaron Carter. I met him a million times and he was lovely and always recognized and talked to me and that is who i chose to mourn, not who he was for the last few tragic years of his life when the world failed him.
I've checked the posts that were made by the members and to be honest I find it sick how people are dissecting everything about it. To begin with they were harassing the members to make posts as quickly as possible and once they actually do they will begin with looking into every single detail.
I saw that people were commenting that Niall and Harry's posts were not 'genuine' enough and written by their publicity agents. Ok and so what if they were? They are likely to caught up in mourning to do it themselves but they are pressured to put out a statement. The people that said that the photo chosen by Harry wasn't 'good' enough because he picked a solo photo. I thought it was a rather pleasant photo of him performing.
People are also badgering Cheryl for not saying anything because 'She has a son with him she should care' like bro EXACTLY SHE HAS A CHILD WITH HIM LET HER MOURN QUIETLY.
Yeah I think people picking apart statements is so disgusting, like they don't owe anyone their grief or an articulation on that grief. What Louis and Zayn wrote was lovely, but that doesn't mean that Harry or Niall are feeling less.
Yeah some people find it really cathartic to write something personal straight away, but for others it may take years to come to terms with a death. I find this whole culture of not just needing but -requiring- deep heartfelt commentary for everything asap very damaging.
Especially when people appoint themselves the judge of if it's acceptable or not.
that pic 💔💔😭 i’m still in shock, sometimes i feel like a fool for crying but jesus. i was listening to 18 and just started sobbing. i used to sing that song to my dog (i got him when i was 18) and he just passed and so it’s all just like WOAH, a lot, okay??? i’m feelin it. i feel so weighed down by all of the unfathomable loss this year, both personally and around the world 😔 the friendships and experiences i gained watching these boys take on super stardom fame were such a big part of my life at one point, it really feels like a personal loss. i just want to extend my love to everyone here who is going through it too ♥️♥️ feel what you feel, and make no apologies for it
oh god, YES, my sister and i watched this is us last night and my god, it makes me sick to my stomach 😭 and the scene just prior to the campfire, when they’re pitching tents and of course liam is doing his solo and is the first to have it up in minutes, while everyone else is ridiculous and struggling, with louis pretending to forage for kindling or acorns or who knows what in the background, oh man. like, that was so liam. it was such a perfect illustration, it was so sweet and made me smile, but then the attempt to grasp the gulf between that boy and the man he was, what could have been, what went wrong, what happened, how his life ended, etc., is truly, truly devastating :(
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Omg that photo, they were children jfc.
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It's honestly a testament to how kids/teens are not equipped to be thrown into these adult environments, no matter how much they dream about becoming an entertainer. There are barely any safeguards in place and even supportive parents are often not well informed to navigate these spaces.
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If I remember correctly, they didn't even get this. It was that WHILE they toured, they were also recording during the day and basically would get no breaks cause the second tour ended, it was time to promote the new album
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The people around him and his fans mourning maybe not his current self, but the version they knew and how that can be valid. The posts from Zayn and Louis made me cry. But also how all that grief and immortalization of him as a good person can be difficult for those he hurt to hear.
Then you have the consumption of not only people but teenagers as a form of celebrity. This very 2015 tumblr post recirculated on my dash today and it really dug into parts of it. It's a miracle any of them are even a fraction of well adjusted when you think about it ( ... )
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I saw that people were commenting that Niall and Harry's posts were not 'genuine' enough and written by their publicity agents. Ok and so what if they were? They are likely to caught up in mourning to do it themselves but they are pressured to put out a statement. The people that said that the photo chosen by Harry wasn't 'good' enough because he picked a solo photo. I thought it was a rather pleasant photo of him performing.
People are also badgering Cheryl for not saying anything because 'She has a son with him she should care' like bro EXACTLY SHE HAS A CHILD WITH HIM LET HER MOURN QUIETLY.
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Especially when people appoint themselves the judge of if it's acceptable or not.
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