Niall Horan and Cheryl Cole on Liam’s passing

[genbu_no_miko24]

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Comments

[peachypearl]

I've checked the posts that were made by the members and to be honest I find it sick how people are dissecting everything about it. To begin with they were harassing the members to make posts as quickly as possible and once they actually do they will begin with looking into every single detail.

I saw that people were commenting that Niall and Harry's posts were not 'genuine' enough and written by their publicity agents. Ok and so what if they were? They are likely to caught up in mourning to do it themselves but they are pressured to put out a statement. The people that said that the photo chosen by Harry wasn't 'good' enough because he picked a solo photo. I thought it was a rather pleasant photo of him performing.

People are also badgering Cheryl for not saying anything because 'She has a son with him she should care' like bro EXACTLY SHE HAS A CHILD WITH HIM LET HER MOURN QUIETLY.

[kris_terror]

Yeah I think people picking apart statements is so disgusting, like they don't owe anyone their grief or an articulation on that grief. What Louis and Zayn wrote was lovely, but that doesn't mean that Harry or Niall are feeling less.

[peachypearl]

Yeah some people find it really cathartic to write something personal straight away, but for others it may take years to come to terms with a death. I find this whole culture of not just needing but -requiring- deep heartfelt commentary for everything asap very damaging.

Especially when people appoint themselves the judge of if it's acceptable or not.

[loverdestroyed]

well said!

[pi_lady]

And lbr if Cheryl posted something immediately there would be some people telling her to take care of her son first.

People are so weird about celebs making statements after somebody's death. Just let them grieve first, a lack of a statement doesn't mean they don't care.

[peachypearl]

Being a mother online is a slippery slope no matter what, she can't make a right choice. But her mourning is so different from the others, she suddenly has to navigate a world in which the father of her son is no longer there.

Tbh I really don't know what their connection was like but this is difficult no matter what, suddenly the future connection that you may have imagined between them is totally gone.

[blandinavian]

It's so fucked up how people are not only requiring that they "perform" their grief in public, but then also judging them for how they do that.

[peachypearl]

It's deeply disturbing and it also makes me realize that whatever the guys do in public for the foreseeable future will be picked apart as well. Do they look sad enough? Is the activity sad enough as well? If it's a fun activity do they not care??? Are they secretly HAPPY??????

Really some of these people are just completely insane.

[blandinavian]

And yet the same people are annoyed that some of them* have more or less backed away completely from social media other than for tour and promo stuff. It's mind-boggling that they can't make the connection.

*at least Harry and Niall, I don't really follow Louis or Zayn, so not sure about them?

[seenomore]

as soon as the news broke, people were flooding all of their comment sections demanding a statement. it’s so sick. they don’t even care what they have to say, they just want an immediate reaction to judge how they’re grieving.

i can’t even explain what i mean but it’s really weird how the first time some people did was comment on instagram demanding a statement.

[glitterslugs]

The way social media has fucked everyone in the head when it comes to private emotions is so concerning for the future and younger generations

[seenomore]

yeah, it’s disgusting. like someone else said, people want the group members to perform their grief so *they* can react to it. (and post it on twitter for engagement).

[insomniachobs]

People are also badgering Cheryl for not saying anything because 'She has a son with him she should care' like bro EXACTLY SHE HAS A CHILD WITH HIM LET HER MOURN QUIETLY.

It just leaves me speechless. Her child just lost his father, do these idiots on Insta not think she might be a little busy parenting right now?

[soelusive]

It's so fucking bizarre and entitled to basically be 'ranking' the statements they've made about the LOSS OF SOMEONE THEY KNOW/CARED ABOUT.

[mystic_kiwi]

Like if I could have hired a PR firm to let people know when my grandma died I sure as fuck would have! The way (some) people expect these public displays of grief and have ideas on how to do them "right" makes me so angry

[evett]

I was wondering if Harry would get hate cause his letter was more like sad for his friend-coworker while the rest were calling him a brother