Anna Kendrick for The Guardian

[kwoneunbi]

‘It feels very personal’: Anna Kendrick on coercion, not wanting children and making a movie about dating a killer https://t.co/eyBmr0Bunj
- The Guardian (@guardian) October 11, 2024

The Guardian released an interview with Anna Kendrick in honor of her directorial debut, Woman of The Hour, which comes out next Friday (October 18th) on Netflix.

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[lamppost1911]

I appreciate your summary op but only read about halfway through because I really should go to sleep but this resonated with me:
a woman who makes no apologies for wanting neither kids nor cats.

I also saw she expanded on that. I’m a cat mom. Grew up with a cat and adopted my bff’s cat when she couldn’t take care of it (debatable…) but it’s still A LOT. She’s super chill and is older yet so low key but you never know what will happen.

I give credit to parents of children. I still don’t understand how my dad was able to raise me and my sister as a single dad.

[anna_drenxavier]

Yep, pets are expensive! I've spent at least 10K in the past ten years on my pets. Three of them needed surgery. My precious kitty right now has a heart condition. My dog requires professional grooming. My brother got two kittens, and I'm forcing him to get them neutered. They have their first vet appointment on Monday, which I of course had to schedule. Sigh!

[lamppost1911]

EXACTLY!! I was lucky enough to be in a good financial position when I took in my bff’s cat and she will always be my priority but it’s so difficult when the unexpected happens and the monthly expenses add up so quickly.

I hope your baby is ok and can be diagnosed quickly (and cheaply, lbr)

May I ask what breed your second baby is? I feel weird calling them babies yet not 😂

I am such a cat person but mostly because I know I could never be responsible for a dog.

[anna_drenxavier]

Yess they will always be our babies! <3 My dog baby is a Great Pyrenees! VERY FLUFFY. VERY LARGE. (150 pounds lolll) I got him into the tub once, but he overpowered me and ran down the stairs. He always behaves for the groomer, tho!

[slaughtermatic]

good for her. id be responsible with kids, and id make a great mom. I just dont want them. I don't want em. don't feel like it. dint need any reasoning beyond that.

[kwoneunbi]

Yeah! I love kids, but I also love them enough to know that they deserve better than to have someone like me as a mom. I have far too much trauma that I still need to unpack and I don't want to put that burden on a child.

[slaughtermatic]

that's beautiful that you recognise that! I feel its a shame sometes bc ive dealt with
ny trauma a lot and id feel that would be beneficial to a child and id support them on many ways, but im just so tired. im exhausted. I want nothing else but to lie down and eat ice cream for the rest of my life and theres no room for kids. also pregnancy is crazy unapppealing to me.

[artemisofluna]

Kids love me, and I am great with them but NO WAY would I ever want some. Ppl keep saying "you might change your mind" and I say "I'm 43, when do you expect this dramatic change of mind might happen?!"

[anna_drenxavier]

"When you're old and all alone, living under a bridge!!!!" I know a dumb dumb who makes that "argument" when they're trying to make me feel inferior for not having kids. As if having kids is a guarantee that you'll be taken care of.

[ivy_b]

That's exactly what my grandma says: "who will take care of you when you're old?" I told her there are no guarantees, I could even outline my kids, she's seen it before in her assisted living.

[anna_drenxavier]

Ugh. Yeah. My shitty cousin has basically abandoned my aunt. She's in her 80s and lives with my dad, so I see her all the time. My cousin can no longer be bothered to visit, not even on Christmas, and he probably lives closer than I do. (We all live in the same area.) I'm worried he won't step up when she starts needing real help.

[nutmegdealer]

i have cptsd and relate to the entire last paragraph. it's so damn exhausting working on recovering when it feels like everything is trapped in your mind and body.

[insomniachobs]

I hadn't realised until the past few years that trauma physically changes your brain, on a chemical level. And at least some of that change is even inheritable by your descendants.

Which maybe ought to have been depressing, but in a weird way I found kind of liberating... like, no wonder it's fucking exhausting, you're trying to counteract your actual molecular structure. Helped me blame myself a little less.

[milkradio]

I'm always glad to see women who never wanted kids / just didn't really think about them. We need more examples and representation of that.