Anna Kendrick for The Guardian

[kwoneunbi]

‘It feels very personal’: Anna Kendrick on coercion, not wanting children and making a movie about dating a killer https://t.co/eyBmr0Bunj
- The Guardian (@guardian) October 11, 2024

The Guardian released an interview with Anna Kendrick in honor of her directorial debut, Woman of The Hour, which comes out next Friday (October 18th) on Netflix.

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[artemisofluna]

Kids love me, and I am great with them but NO WAY would I ever want some. Ppl keep saying "you might change your mind" and I say "I'm 43, when do you expect this dramatic change of mind might happen?!"

[anna_drenxavier]

"When you're old and all alone, living under a bridge!!!!" I know a dumb dumb who makes that "argument" when they're trying to make me feel inferior for not having kids. As if having kids is a guarantee that you'll be taken care of.

[ivy_b]

That's exactly what my grandma says: "who will take care of you when you're old?" I told her there are no guarantees, I could even outline my kids, she's seen it before in her assisted living.

[anna_drenxavier]

Ugh. Yeah. My shitty cousin has basically abandoned my aunt. She's in her 80s and lives with my dad, so I see her all the time. My cousin can no longer be bothered to visit, not even on Christmas, and he probably lives closer than I do. (We all live in the same area.) I'm worried he won't step up when she starts needing real help.

[ivy_b]

That's really shitty of him. I'm glad she at least has you. But yeah, having kids is no guarantee someone will take care of you, you got to make sure you're set up and have some kind of support in place.

[artemisofluna]

lol wtfffffff like...there are places for that if necessary, and friends will keep you company! Christ.

[insomniachobs]

And even besides the fact there's no guarantee your kids will be alive or bothered to care for you when you're old... what an awful reason to have children. To bring someone into the world just to be obligated as your free carer.

[anachan87]

every time I hear the "You might change your mind" argument my blood boils, and I end up asking back where do I return them since people obviously think you can return them like clothes.

And then I usually follow up with "Why is it so hard for you to comprehend I don't want what you have?" becuase IT IS ALWAYS SOMEONE WITH KIDS saying that.

[insomniachobs]

"You might change your mind!" is just such a stupid argument. Every single decision we ever make comes with a risk that we might change our minds or regret it later - so what are we supposed to do then? Not make decisions? Clearly that's not realistic, especially when 'do nothing' is a de facto decision in itself. Ignore all the information and context and feelings we have now and make the decision that feels wrong to us in case we change our minds later? Well that's obviously fucking stupid. And neither of those options even takes away the risk of regret or wishing you'd done something different.

It's almost like all any of us can do is make the best decision we can with the information we have now and accept that changing our minds later is a risk.