Chappell Roan talks about having empathy for "Very Republican" friends & family

[jemgirl90]

Chappell Roan revealed to Rolling Stone that she has no problem with having Republican friends and relatives. pic.twitter.com/OjkfxBnhZL
- Pop Flop (@PopFlopHQ) September 10, 2024
Source:https://twitter.com/PopFlopHQ/status/1833525345707835510Read more... )

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[therearewords]

Ooooh, bless her heart.

source outside of the cut, please

[therearewords]

Just a heads up for next time, OP.

[solira21]

LMFAO this entire post feels like bait...Yeah I don't immediately hate her for not immediately cutting her entire family completely out of her life the year she got famous, OP. Why is everyone so thrilled to cut this girl down to size...

[solira21]

In general I feel like a lot of people talk a big game about "cutting off family members" when realistically, half the time doing that actually doesn't impact the toxic person at all. I have kept some "toxic" family members in my life long enough to sway their views on things & if I had cut them off at a young age it would've just meant less stability for me and zero consequences for them....Not every solution involves immediately severing ties with people and having zero empathy for them.

Re: Ariana DeBose

[bakemonos]

Ah, that's the issue! Y'all think that cutting people off is about inflicting hurt on the other person. It's not about impacting the toxic person at all. It's about setting boundaries for yourself and not allowing people with those viewpoints around you.

Re: Ariana DeBose

[solira21]

Sure, but in this case, I think the majority of commenters seem to be thinking that she should cut these people off in order to make a statement about their ideas (because it's in conflict with her public image or her values or something?)

It's just not realistic in that sense. She's gotten very famous in a very short period of time, it makes sense to me that her first order of business would not be immediately saying Fuck You to her entire family.

[sassandthecity]

This is so white queer lol. Good backlash, babe

[eronanke]

I mean, you can love your abuser, sure, but you should also spend all your energy trying to get away from people who would, given the chance, hurt you, and hurt those you claim to care about.

[theactualworst]

I agree but I think it’s more complicated than some people want to acknowledge. I mean I go to certain family functions so I can see my nieces and nephews and good family members. I can’t control that my parents will also be there. I don’t tolerate their shit or let them say ignorant things around me but it’s hard to realistically fully cut them off and see the rest of my family. I also try to be civil so as to not have constant drama or disruptive scenes. I’m sure some people will see that as complicity.

That said, I wouldn’t say I have empathy for them lol. I mean I guess as abused people but not as conservatives.

[janetdkd]

Right. My parents are not the smartest people in the world and are not having the best political views, but not everything in life is black and white. Sure I can stop being a fan of pop singer if she has shitty views, but I can not really disown my whole family. I call them on their shit and try to correct them much as possible. My dad passed away recently and nothing really mattered, not his political views, life philosophy, etc. Humans are complicated. Ofc if they were mean people that were pushing their political narrative and being fucking ashsoles I would cut them off maybe, but them being dumbass is not really reason to disown them.

[theactualworst]

I mean I would definitely not have a relationship if it were more conducive. My parents aren’t just dumb conservatives, they abused me. It’s complicated for my siblings and I because we were raised to not talk about our feelings (a way my parents protected themselves). We were also abused in different ways.

I did leave for a long time and cut off contact as much as I could but I ultimately suffered the most because I was losing my other family members. It’s very hard and there are straight up times I fantasize that my parents will just die. For now though I just grit my teeth so I can know my nieces and nephews and maintain a healthy relationship with my siblings (as much as I can - also complicated).