Drew Barrymore admits she wishes her mother Jaid was dead; now says her words were misrepresented

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Drew Barrymore admits she wishes her mother Jaid was dead: ‘I cannot wait’ https://t.co/0vA9uAAxvJ pic.twitter.com/r0tUKwe3IE
- Page Six (@PageSix) June 5, 2023
Drew Barrymore told New York magazine: “All [of my friends'] moms are gone, and my mom’s not,” Drew says. “And I’m like, Well, I don’t have that luxury. But I cannot wait. I don’t want to

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[pikapika217]

I don't think she said anything all that horrendous, especially given her strained relationship. This also makes me think of her interview with Jennette McCurdy where they really seemed to connect with each other over their awful maternal relationships

[shittysoup]

[blorpz]

yeah, this interview is funny to me because you can see drew figuring stuff out in real time. she's not quite where jennette is so it's a little frustrating from an interview perspective but it is fascinating

[pikapika217]

Yeah there's a real bravery and clarity to how Jennette is able to speak to the experience of her mother & her's relationship and the truth of how it affected her while Drew clearly seems to want that for herself but is maybe feeling guilt in some way about letting herself speak the truth of that.

[vazabroc]

[misscrystal]

Since discovering the r/raisedbynarcissists sub on Reddit I never question when people say things like this or have low/zero contact with their parents. Some people's parents truly ain't shit.

[they_marry]

Narcissists are the fucking scum of the earth. Cutting contact was the best thing I ever did.

[jesuisjuan]

Yeah, one thing that would upset me in the past on dating apps would be answers to prompts that would read, "A non-negotiable for me is how you get along with your parents," or "A red flag is someone who bad mouths their parents." Not many people realize that, sadly, having safe and secure relationships with those who brought us here (because we didn't ask or choose to be here) can be a privilege. Sometimes, they really try their best to love and support their children as best they can with whatever they were nurtured with (if at all), and I can empathize with that since it can be intergenerational trauma. It may just not have been enough for the needs of the children, and it really affects them as they get older. It's too complex and not black and white as people would think

[drunkard]

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents really helped me in my mid-20s. I second your recommendation & will check out the other book.

Edit: I also want to add Drama of the Gifted Child by Alice Miller, which helped me a lot as well.

The "drama" of the gifted - i.e., sensitive, alert - child consists of his recognition at a very early age of his parents' needs and of his adaptation to these needs. In the process, he learns to repress rather than to acknowledge his own intense feelings because they are unacceptable to his parents.

[epicdonald]

as wonderful as it would be for everyone on this planet to feel unconditionally loved and supported and valued by their moms, not everyone does. and the people who don't have every right to feel however they feel about that.

[wowsolovely]

I don't know a lot about drews mom but as someone who has a monster for a mother its complicated you feel guilty even if you aren't wrong. Like I dont wish my mother ill at all but I also will feel relieved when I don't have to tip toe around talking about how truly terrible, she was/is. I could not read Jennettes book fast enough honestly.