Minka Kelly reveals details from her childhood

[silverstarry]

Minka Kelly Reveals Details From Her Traumatic Childhood in New Memoir: 'I Carried a Lot of Shame' (Exclusive) https://t.co/aUy7lPMoqJ
- People (@people) April 13, 2023
Minka Kelly's memoir Tell Me Everything is being released on May 2. She talks about how cathartic it was to write about the things she had felt embarrassed about, saying, "I started

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[theactualworst]

Oof I hope she’s in a good place and has a good support system.

[thebadunkadunk]

I wouldn’t call myself a fan but I love to read celebrity memoirs so I’d read this. Hope she’s in a healing place rn

[silverstarry]

I know who she is from various roles (like on FNL) but I wouldn't say I'm a fan. I've always been neutral towards her. I don't love her or hate her but I know that she exists and that she's very pretty and that's about the extent of it. I love reading memoirs (celebrity and otherwise) so I know I will end up reading this eventually. I had no idea about her childhood so I really feel for her. It sounds like she's processed a lot of her feelings about her mom. I hope she's able to forgive herself because it sounds like she feels guilty about the resentment and negative feelings she had about her mom.

[theylezharold]

I hope she can forgive herself too. I recoil whenever people say to forgive your abuser, to me that's a continuation of abuse and a Stockholm Syndrome type-situation, so it's always refreshing when people say that someone can hopefully forgive themselves. Bc that's the forgiveness that makes the far bigger and more positive difference it would seem.

[ahkna]

That's exactly what my wife and I work on a lot. I always tell her she doesn't need to forgive her mother to forgive herself and heal. It made a HUGE positive difference in her healing.

[nomoneyfun]

Oooh chile. I really hope she's healed or healing, but to all the people with toxic parents, it's okay to NOT forgive and forget. The most important thing is to find a way to not let bitterness and anger eat away at you, but you have the right to feel those feelings. You do not have to find meaning in your parents' bullshit if that's not your journey. Some of our parents did NOT do the best they could and we don't have to walk around pretending they did for other people's comfort. Fuck that. May we all find friendship and family ties that truly sustain us beyond our family of origin.

[inandoutofgrace]

I think you’re right, but also I think that it’s ok to both forgive while acknowledging the damage they did. For me personally, if I hadn’t settled on *some* form of forgiveness (or at least peace) towards my mum post her passing, it would have hurt more than helped me.

[nomoneyfun]

Yeah, I know everyone's situation is different, but in a world where we act like forgiveness inherently has redemptive properties, it's okay if there are other pathways towards peace.

[inandoutofgrace]

Yeah, I hope Minka didn’t feel like it was owed or obligated because her mum was terminal

[genbu_no_miko24]

I read some stuff from a people mag article. I thought the stuff with her mom was sad especially about Thanksgiving.

[j___adore]

what happened?

[genbu_no_miko24]

IIRC Thanksgiving was her mom’s favorite holiday and she wanted to spend it with Minka. This was during the last years of her life and Minka didn’t go because she was working, she kept thinking it’ll be fine and she can do it next year. Even though deep down she had doubts. There was no next year cause her mom died which left Minka full of regrets.

[deerlike]

Oof. Complicated, painful relationships with mother figures, I know it well.