Constance Wu for the NY Times

[shangri__la]

The NYT print headline is prob more accurate to the content than the online version’s headline. Oh & it’s not really a memoir, but a book of several standalone essays. Thank u @Thessaly for writing w/ honesty, integrity & compassion https://t.co/2HyQWxYbse pic.twitter.com/BxGHp4XnLp
- Constance Wu (@ConstanceWu) September 25, 2022
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Comments

[ambermoons]

All I can say is I feel sorry and happy for her at the same time, sorry for what she's been through and the backlash she got, but happy she gets to continue doing what she loves, and hopefully she has made peace with a lot of things in her life and has some solid support helping her through all this. Social media is STILL a mistake.

[sea_thoughts]

This has made me want to read her memoir. Fuck that teacher for accusing her of plagiarism but I'm glad she found her way back to writing. And I hope she continues healing and enjoying acting.

[dadeepish]

I’m sure mrtoad and many more will downvote me but I just…don’t buy a lot of this. She got high on her own supply after CRA, made a horrendous misstep by publicly bitching about the continuation of a show that paid her millions, and then concocted a story to get back into the public’s good books. Doesn’t ring true.

[ponyboy]

i felt crazy reading the other posts. did people forget her main co-stars were children and that's why it was particularly bad?

i am willing to think she's experienced victimization. i do not think that makes her other rumored behavior something excuseable.

[dadeepish]

Yeah, the harassment part isn’t what I’m questioning.

[floatinglately]

so are you questioning that being sexually harassed by someone involved in your job could influence the way you behave at that job or in public-facing ways regarding to that job?

[sudols]

A bit confused, as didn't the crew members and costars say she was rude, especially to the crew? Or was all that made up or what?

[ponyboy]

they did and gemma chan "fat fingered" a tweet about it. i think it's both true that she was harassed and that she was terrible to other people.

[hahahey]

Agreed, it’s very possible that both things are true

[muffintiem]

Yashar Ali tweeted that--and Gemma Chan liked the tweet, which a lot of people took as confirmation, but even if so, that's one person's experience and from what I've learned via other ONTD fam is that she's a Depp supporter so maybe not being liked by her is a badge of honor.

[nomoneyfun]

I'm really sorry she had to experience sexual harassment. She's clearly a complicated person and I think her current evolution is an interesting case study of the importance of responding empathetically when bad things happen to people who otherwise have low credibility for their past behavior. Beyond rumors of her being unpleasant, you can literally find interviews where she's being rude to the interviewer. There is also that moment where she insisted on calling yellow face "blackface on Asians because it's more evocative." Like, girl please.

It's also interesting how much she's engaging in talking about race and racism in this interview. On one hand, people of color and women of color are often held to higher standards of conduct for their behavior in the court of public opinion. On the other hand, it's a strange response to essentially say that people of color have the right to be "imperfect" as a way to downplay poor behavior.

[ponyboy]

i am somewhat shocked people forgot that horrible blackface comment tbh. it was so terrible.

[pseudonygma]

. There is also that moment where she insisted on calling yellow face "blackface on Asians because it's more evocative."

That was horrendous and she really should not have worded it like that for shock factor if she wasn't going to provide context (assuming it didn't get cut). At the time of her saying it, Americans at large are only coming to terms of blackface being bad; nobody gaf about yellowface so while I could see why she would word it like that due to interview time constraints, it's not fair to hijack blackface/equate the two because the way blackface and yellowface is done/weaponized/belittled is completely different; the social ramifications of it are completely different as well.

[tellmeboyloveit]

I get that we should hold women to the same standards we hold everyone else to but it is truly so hard for me to grasp the intense amount of ill will she has recieved for being rude (not commenting on the blackface thing, that certainly deserves scrutiny and is not my place to discuss) when there's so many videos of so many male actors straight up sexually harassing interviewers or treating them like they're annoying iditos and nobody bats an eye or even thinks it's funny or memeable for the latter. It's frustrating and difficult to have to keep the same energy when nobody else seems to do so.