The Real: “Are destination weddings rude?”

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The panel on The Real (Adrienne Houghton, Loni Love, Jeannie Mai, and Tamera Mowry-Housley) discuss if having a destination wedding is rude to your family and friends. Bank Rate recently asked its readers if they thought it was in poor taste to plan a destination wedding: 56% said yes, 19% said they had to decline an invite because they couldn’t

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[familyjules]

We went to a destination wedding in Belize in January, which was actually surprisingly affordable, all things considered. The brides stressed multiple times that they did not want any gifts or money from the guests as us bothering to make the trip to be with them was gift enough.

[anachan87]

It was not a destination wedding, but when my cousin got married 15+ years ago, the ceremony was where her and her future husband would live which was 6+ hours away from basically all of her family, so they paid for the hotel for all of her relatives and friends. (also, my family is so big that we ended up renting a whole bus to drive us there, instead of going in what would have been 15+ cars).

[normanikordei]

I have attended a destination wedding and I had fun. initially it was a local wedding, and then it turned into a destination wedding when the couple decided that they had too many people to invite so they wanted to make it easier on themselves when it came to choosing guests and costs etc.

that’s all well and good, but it put a big strain on the bridal party. I could barely afford the dress AND my share of the bridal shower AND wedding gift etc plus to have to pay for the resort + airfare on top of that. I didn’t want to let the bride down and back out (which a couple of bridesmaids did).

[cheeseasauras]

Yeah being a bridesmaid is already so expensive. It’s feels unfair to put your closest friends in such a shitty position.

[xtinkerbellax]

It's ridiculous to expect gifts from people in that situation imo. Like, bridal parties spend so much on a wedding, that should be the gift.

[bellwetherr]

it is honestly so tacky to expect gifts from your wedding party on top of everything else they spend

[unintentionalty]

All the best weddings I've been to were small-ish destination weddings. As long as you're not absolutely expected to attend (and pay your own way if you are) they're totally fine. All weddings end up being expensive for both the couple and the guests so the couple might as well do what they really want.

[corgismiles]

I always thought destination weddings were so you could increase the chance that the people you don't like (who your parents are forcing you to invite anyway) won't show up.

At least that's what my sister told me and it worked for her, lol.