The Real: “Are destination weddings rude?”

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The panel on The Real (Adrienne Houghton, Loni Love, Jeannie Mai, and Tamera Mowry-Housley) discuss if having a destination wedding is rude to your family and friends. Bank Rate recently asked its readers if they thought it was in poor taste to plan a destination wedding: 56% said yes, 19% said they had to decline an invite because they couldn’t

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[wormsinthedirt]

Often they're done specifically to cut down on the guest least/save on costs so yeah, that's rude af. Nothing wrong with having a small wedding but like...own up to it and reduce your own guest list rather than making people shell out thousands to attend.

My husband and I don't travel for weddings at all. It's nothing personal, but we have limited vacation days and a limited travel budget, and unless you're my best friend I can't really afford to use either of those things on a wedding.

[zazie_toujours]

exactly. like i'd do it for my best friend or my mom if she wanted another go lmao but that's about it

[syvlie0o0]

No one HAS to go to a wedding except the people getting married.

[tragedyofempty]

personally I would do the courthouse thing, but if I ever get married I know the guy has a right to have a say and if he wants a real wedding it will be destination just to cut the list down. As much as I'd love to just not invite people, I know how much shit I'd get if I had a wedding in the US and chose not to invite 98% of my family. It would cause a ton less drama for me to just scamper off to Europe or South America and get married while inviting people I know simply won't travel.

[xtinkerbellax]

They're fine if you don't expect people to attend or you are certain of your friends and families' finances. Expecting people to drop over a grand on your wedding is ridiculous when you know they don't have a lot of disposable income.

[tragedyofempty]

I'd 100% do it to keep certain family members from coming. Friends I can choose not to invite, but it's much harder to refuse to invite family, so destination allows you to invite but be relatively sure who won't come

[ellyrianna]

We chose to get married in my husband's home country in Europe and part of the reason was because our American friends and family are upwardly mobile and down to make that trip. It really is a know your crowd thing.

[cheeseasauras]

I do think destination weddings put people in an uncomfortable financial position a lot of the time. I have a family wedding next week and it’s in a small town that the couple went to college in and I know some people in my family are spending thousands of dollars on travel and hotel for their families and that’s to a not expensive area. It would suck if your family wanted to be with you and couldn’t because they couldn’t afford a flight to Hawaii or something.

But also if you hate your family and don’t want them to come, a destination wedding seems smart.

[britneyspears]

it can be pretty inconsiderate if you know your invitees can't afford it (which is the case for people who aren't like, zoe kravitz)

but i dont care to see anyone get married so i just see it as a great excuse to not go lol

[cheeseasauras]

Yeah that’s crazy. I know someone who had their bachlorette in Cancun and it fucked over multiple bridesmaids financially and caused a ton of tension.

[zazie_toujours]

christ.