The Real: “Are destination weddings rude?”

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The panel on The Real (Adrienne Houghton, Loni Love, Jeannie Mai, and Tamera Mowry-Housley) discuss if having a destination wedding is rude to your family and friends. Bank Rate recently asked its readers if they thought it was in poor taste to plan a destination wedding: 56% said yes, 19% said they had to decline an invite because they couldn’t

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[flowerssleeping]

well hey at least you wouldn't be a dick to ppl who have to RSVP no so w/e!

[partyafterparty]

I don't think it's rude at all. it's your wedding, do whatever you want sis!

[pikapika217]

you could just not invite them in the first place tho. Like if you aren't close with them don't invite them

[ellie_andrews]

it's not rude as long as you're not a dick to people who can't go. my cousin's getting married today (he's 19 lol) and the invitations said "if you don't RSVP by [date] be prepared to bring your own food and chair" which maybe was SUPPOSED to be funny but i thought it just came off kinda weird and a little hostile lmao

[corgismiles]

19? Hopefully the invitations for his next wedding in a few years will be more refined, lol.

[dior_chic]

😂😂😂

[ellie_andrews]

for real lol

[sastra_fuss]

it's rude if your friends and family are broke. my sister had one and none of us went. the marriage is over already so oh, well, no money lost

[dior_chic]

‘the marriage is over already so oh, well, no money lost’

I’m sorry but this made me laugh lol

[starsandcrosses]

same im howling lol

[zazie_toujours]

omg lol

[marzipanism]

As long as there’s no hard feelings when guests RSVP no then I don’t see how it’s rude

Personally I wish I could’ve had a destination wedding but my grandma can’t travel and I want her there. Otherwise if she could travel I’d get married on a beautiful beach and invite only the closest family and friends (and give them like a year notice so they have time to save up and make arrangements)

My best friend booked her bridal shower a week after my wedding..is that rude?

[marzipanism]

Personally I didn't have an issue with it but some friends in common were outraged

I won't be there tho cuz I'll be on my honeymoon

[ellyrianna]

Part of the reason we had a DW was so my husband's grandma could attend. We did it in her home country. I have one living grandparent left and she doesn't really GAF about me so I was fine with prioritizing my husband's grandma instead.

[flowerssleeping]

i just want to elope and then throw a small-ish sized party for friends and family after

i always find it so weird how some couples get offended when people can't afford to attend destination weddings or when people have other life events going on in their lives and they have to bow out of even a local wedding/wedding activities for cost purposes, etc. i find it sf ungrateful that ppl can't just be stoked for well wishes or a modest gift if someone can't financially afford to attend.

[dior_chic]

IA elope then a simple but fun party seems most ideal to me, or just right to the honeymoon

And IA it’s a big reason why I’m not into the whole wedding thing (...lbr not into marriage either lol) is some really selfish or ugly emotions come out of something that’s supposed to be celebrated