Second (Chapter and) Verse, Same As The First.

[nyssa23]

Eric's father called last night for him; thankfully, Eric was out doing laundry and I was putting the kids down for the night and didn't get to the phone in time. I called Eric to let him know and waited for him to call me back and tell me what happened

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[nyssa23]

Aw, that's okay. Thanks! *hugs*

P.S. I lol'd at "Pope Palpatine." Heh.

[kcobweb]

Race and religion make people do some petty/stupid things. It's a shame that your kids have to deal with that from within their own family - but you have written a bit about how strong a connection Sarah has to Judaism (I can only assume that Hunter will start to demonstrate that - or not - in the next few years). If she is strong in her faith and her identity and self, hopefully they cannot injure that sense of who she is. (A great chance for a lesson in tolerance perhaps......)

I know it's hard. But remember - Eric supports you, even if he can't help his father's issues. It sounds like you've worked really hard on getting to this bat mitzvah, and I hate to think of them spoiling it for you. They can't take this away from you! It is a huge accomplishment - don't let their blind ignorance sully that.

[nyssa23]

Hunter's definitely starting to show a connection to Judaism; he goes to services with me and Sarah each week and does his best to say a few words of each prayer, so that makes me feel pretty good.

Thank you for your kind words; I do need to stop letting how they are acting control how I feel. *hugs*

[kcobweb]

I didn't want to speak for Hunter if it didn't apply..... so everything I said above about Sarah goes for him too! :)

Just hang in there. Focus on how COOL it is that you are doing this, and how great it is.

[nyssa23]

My entire family is totally batshit, which is why I feel the need for several states' distance between us. I guess I just thought Eric's family was different. :/

I think he needs to try reading the Bible again, because he's pretty much failing at the whole Christian thing so far as I can tell.

LOL *hugs*

P.S. Yes, your dad sounds kind of awesome. :)

[kassrachel]

Oh, honey. I am so sorry this is happening.

Your love for Eric, and his for you, and your mutual love for your children -- nobody can take those away from you.

His father's behavior is out of line and is in no way reasonable, but that's his stuff -- it's his baggage, not yours, not Eric's.

I'm sorry that this is hurting you, especially at a moment when you should be rejoicing. But I'm incredibly proud of you, and someday when your kids are old enough to understand they will be too, and I know Eric supports you in being all of who you are.

*love*

[nyssa23]

Thanks. I needed to hear that; it's easy to forget sometimes that I am not responsible for others' baggage.

*loves*

[girllikething]

family stinks sometimes! a bunch of my mom's side of the family (who i am not blood related to and they always hang that over my head) look down on me because i've had a rough go of it with my previously undiagnosed bipolar causing me to make bad choices and then with the loss of mia, being unable to work and thus being unable to be an active member of society (guess they never lost something or someone they loved so much that they couldnt function) and now that i am omg pregnant again WITHOUT planning it and WITHOUT being married to my baby daddy... well by golly i am on the road to hell! not only that but i am immoral and incapable of raising children because i am not finacially or mentally stable.. never mind that joel makes enough that if i didnt want to work i didnt have to or that i have been off my meds nearly a year now WITH SUCCESS!

people suck, family included!