You do have the right to correct them, if they're not acknowledging your gender identity at this time. What you don't have, in my opinion, is the right to criticise general society for making assumptions.
I do identify as trans (and this goes back to about age 8-10), but not as female - gender is a spectrum, after all. The pronoun people use to address me is not particularly important to me - I believe it is better to have this approach than be deeply affected by people using the wrong pronoun, although I do understand why others have a different opinion.
I doubt you're alone in going through the is this a personality disorder/am I mad/is it because of being alone/no self confidence/low self esteem question (I certainly have, repeatedly). I'd only suggest upholding what you believe now, and not making any permanent changes until you are sure exactly what you want to do. In the meantime just look to improve your life, and explore how you want to express your gender.
I don't feel like I have the right to correct people when they refer to me as 'she.' I'm worried that the FtM thing might be temporary, and if that's the case, I worry that people will think of me as unreliable as a result.
When I started my transition, I had a problem. Because of hearing difficulties, I couldn't hear the difference between 'she' and 'he'. I tended not to correct people unless I was sure of what they said. But then, I was sure about myself, too.
I think it's good you doubt. Maybe it is caused by bpd, maybe not, but at least you're leaving yourself open to possibilities.
Oh, if you're wondering, I happened across a posting of yours in trans_please, and just thought I'd check out your journal.
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I do identify as trans (and this goes back to about age 8-10), but not as female - gender is a spectrum, after all. The pronoun people use to address me is not particularly important to me - I believe it is better to have this approach than be deeply affected by people using the wrong pronoun, although I do understand why others have a different opinion.
I doubt you're alone in going through the is this a personality disorder/am I mad/is it because of being alone/no self confidence/low self esteem question (I certainly have, repeatedly). I'd only suggest upholding what you believe now, and not making any permanent changes until you are sure exactly what you want to do. In the meantime just look to improve your life, and explore how you want to express your gender.
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When I started my transition, I had a problem. Because of hearing difficulties, I couldn't hear the difference between 'she' and 'he'. I tended not to correct people unless I was sure of what they said. But then, I was sure about myself, too.
I think it's good you doubt. Maybe it is caused by bpd, maybe not, but at least you're leaving yourself open to possibilities.
Oh, if you're wondering, I happened across a posting of yours in trans_please, and just thought I'd check out your journal.
* HUGS *
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There's all sorts of ways to rerspond to folk.
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