I don't have anything constructive to say other than WHAT THE FUCKING FUCK?! I have only "known" you a few months and just by reading your posts I can clearly tell this is something that is 100% not okay with you in the least, so why the hell can't your boyfriend of some-odd years tell?!
Is it your whole name? Just your first name? Oh god. Oh god. This is normally a terrible idea no matter who you are on account of PERMANENT INK. I love my boyfriend dearly and am actually extremely anxious for him to start talking to me about really serious topics like marriage and I would flip the fuck out over my name being on his chest. What the christ.
I held off for a few hours to give him a half-decent day but it ended up completely getting to me before I left. I started by bitching about all kinds of stupid little stuff, well, I was freaked the hell out, it was going to come out somehow... it finally ended up rounding in on what a stupid thing he did, I tried to explain why it freaked me out but he still will not listen and doesn't understand ...I now feel bad because he was really happy about the stupid thing and loved it, now he has this thing permanently on his chest and hates it now .. ._. ...it has a pretty font but GGGHHHHHHHHHHH.
it's just my first name, but there actually aren't that many people around here with that spelling, and it's pretty fucking big, to make it even worse. The lines are thick and the whole thing is pretty dark, there is no way he could even change it into anything else. I told him that I want it removed. I seriously do. I can't even enjoy sex with it there, I just want to shove him away from me. To top off the doubt that I'm feeling about the relationship but I'm giving it a second chance because it never really had one in that house and then he does that. It's like someone is holding on to you and you try to gently take a step away to get a little space but you can't and then can't move your arms and you start to panic and freak out then hyperventilate and it just gets worse.
Jesus Christ on a pogo-stick! Ethan and I talk about getting married because it feels right. We've mutually decided that neither of us is allowed to get a tattoo like that. I can't even imagine how you must be feeling right now. Actually, I take that back, I can. Extreme anger and revulsion sound about right.
Why the hell does he not get you yet? You've been together for how long? Is he really so self absorbed that he ignores your obvious likes and dislikes?
I vote for starting a threesome with Belle. You, her, and me. It would crash and burn, but it would be beautiful in the fleeting moment of existence between "this would never work" and "hell yeah".
what makes it worse is that I've told him over and over and over within the past two years that tattooing someones name or my name on him is not in anyway cool with me ....I don't think I ever mentioned what a huge turn off it would be but honestly I didn't really even think about that, just how god awful it would be. Seriously he has no excuse, I told him over and over. I even compromised, he has this velvetine rabbit on his arm that is exploding ...the tattoo is supposed to get more to it sooner or later and it's supposed to be a little wind up mouse exploding the rabbit. Richard calls me his "button", I told him that the mouse should have button eyes and thus, I would be tattooed on him. At no point did I ever give the impression that MY NAME would be acceptable.
That was my response that was then followed by many words from himalong the lines of "breath breath breath", I keep over thinking about it and having to tell myself to breath breath breath.
It sounds to me like he's aware on some level of the doubts you're having about the realtionship. It's like he's trying to do whatever he can to cement things between you, make it permanent so you won't leave him. I don't actually think he genuinely thought it would make you happy, more like he's clinging to what works in books and in the movies because he's starting to think that nothing else he does is going to work. I know I get delusional like that. I start thinking more and more about marriage and babies and the like when I know I'm in a relationship that is falling apart. Fortunately, I'm aware of my own tendency to think these things, such that I would never really act on them.
I don't know, I may be completely out of line here, but that's what it seems like to me. It doesn't have much of anything to do with you or him or anything real. It's just pure desperation.
Maybe you could find somebody with the same name and set the two of them up? ;-)
P.S. I don't mean to imply that you realationship is falling apart, only that mine was. I re-read my comment and realized that it may have come off that way; I'm sorry.
Ehh, you would have to know Richard, this is the same concept that he's had trouble grasping before with much smaller things. He'd be goofing off and messing with me and it's cute for a little while but then it's starting to get aggravating because I've had enough and I tell him so, "yeah okay babe, that's enough" and tell him multiple times to stop until I finally snap and yell at him hurting his feelings. And it hurts his feelings because he's just playing with me and means well,and for some reason, because he means well, I shouldn't yell at him for it, even though I had told him to stop 6 times, he's like a puppy I swear. He's also just not thought of crap before or thought it through. Presents and "romantic" dates with me are always what his idea of romantic is and not actually something that I would actually think is romantic or would like but because it's "Romantic" and he thinks that it is sweet then I must, by default, like it as well. He then acts all confused and hurt when I of course do not act in the manner at which he was
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I don't have anything constructive to say other than WHAT THE FUCKING FUCK?! I have only "known" you a few months and just by reading your posts I can clearly tell this is something that is 100% not okay with you in the least, so why the hell can't your boyfriend of some-odd years tell?!
Is it your whole name? Just your first name? Oh god. Oh god. This is normally a terrible idea no matter who you are on account of PERMANENT INK. I love my boyfriend dearly and am actually extremely anxious for him to start talking to me about really serious topics like marriage and I would flip the fuck out over my name being on his chest. What the christ.
What did you SAY to him?
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It's like someone is holding on to you and you try to gently take a step away to get a little space but you can't and then can't move your arms and you start to panic and freak out then hyperventilate and it just gets worse.
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Jesus Christ on a pogo-stick! Ethan and I talk about getting married because it feels right. We've mutually decided that neither of us is allowed to get a tattoo like that. I can't even imagine how you must be feeling right now. Actually, I take that back, I can. Extreme anger and revulsion sound about right.
Why the hell does he not get you yet? You've been together for how long? Is he really so self absorbed that he ignores your obvious likes and dislikes?
I vote for starting a threesome with Belle. You, her, and me. It would crash and burn, but it would be beautiful in the fleeting moment of existence between "this would never work" and "hell yeah".
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Even if it didn't last, I bet we could make some cash off it.
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It sounds to me like he's aware on some level of the doubts you're having about the realtionship. It's like he's trying to do whatever he can to cement things between you, make it permanent so you won't leave him. I don't actually think he genuinely thought it would make you happy, more like he's clinging to what works in books and in the movies because he's starting to think that nothing else he does is going to work. I know I get delusional like that. I start thinking more and more about marriage and babies and the like when I know I'm in a relationship that is falling apart. Fortunately, I'm aware of my own tendency to think these things, such that I would never really act on them.
I don't know, I may be completely out of line here, but that's what it seems like to me. It doesn't have much of anything to do with you or him or anything real. It's just pure desperation.
Maybe you could find somebody with the same name and set the two of them up? ;-)
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