This is just tremendously depressing to me. And
this. I don't understand why people think bullying is just part of life. Everyone experiences being pushed around, but the way we as a culture just accept this kind of thing to the point that children are committing suicide because of it . . . that's sick.
It's sick the way that the victims are
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I told them years later, and they were horrified that I'd been HIT BY A CAR and never told them. To which I responded very matter of factly, "You didn't help me with anything else, why would I possibly have thought you'd help with that?"
This was during a discussion of Columbine where I said that while I in no way, shape or form condoned what those boys did, I understood it. And I stand by that. I do understand it. I spent years turning those destructive, violent urges inward, and starving myself, self-harming, drinking and doing drugs to try to make the hurting stop. And somehow because I was the only victim of those urges, that makes it ok for a whole lot of people.
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AIEEEE YES. THIS RIGHT HERE.
Christ.
I had a completely inappropriate reaction to Columbine. I laughed my ass off. Because I had been saying that was going to happen for YEARS, I had been saying it was only a matter of time, I had been saying that sooner or later someone was gonna snap and start offing people.
Then the age of school shootings came, and with every single one of them, I hoped that the people like the ones who had ignored me blamed themselves for every death.
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Let's just say it doesn't go well. Not even if you scream for help in a house full of your "friends."
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So this made me cry. I kinda want to hug you right now.
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Yeah, my roomie's son loves that particular turn of phrase, and cracks wise when I try to call him on it. Grrrr.
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If I'm reading your intent correctly, which I might not be . . .
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Here's a related story, in which a 15-year-old boy defends himself against racial slurs and physical assault by breaking his bully's nose ... and gets suspended from school and charged with assault. (The suspension was dropped, though the charges still stand.)
The parents of the bully whine about how "embarrassed" and "emotional" they are, which ... really amounts to a whole lot of nothing in comparison to what the victims of bullies feel.
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Yes, have the school counselors deal with the fact that the kid may be acting out due to the parents' divorce. Don't expect the kid she is bullying to forgive her actions because of it, much less apologize to her (what the everliving fuck???).
People are still responsible for their actions, and taking a "oh, but it's just because of..." attitude just teaches people to slough responsibility. Not like we don't have enough of that already.
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