having ascertained that a large part of my ability to beat the shite out of my weasels replace unconscious, ineffective patterns with more effective, conscious behaviours, lies in my ability to put in effect a roadmap of personal goals and milestones, i figure (in the midst of an extremely productive day at work) it's time i start putting money ( Read more... )

i just put a finger on something about my current decision-making processes that's worth recording, because it seems a key component to the question of *why* i decide things the way i do ( Read more... )

earlier this week , j_v_lynch posted a link to this article on becoming an equal in a relationship that, in the midst of everything that's been in my head and on the table since last week, hit me like the proverbial tonne of bricks. ( Read more... )

on the subject of nuclear meltdowns, i have to say... no-one is sexy at eleven o'clock at night with a faceful of snot and a head full of demons ( Read more... )

how many of you have ever been brave enough, in the face of hard personal conversations with your lifemate(s), to say, "yes, that's an important, fundamental need you have identified to me, and you absolutely CANNOT trust me to meet that need for you, when i'm making opaque decisions in the heat of the moment somewhere else"...?? as someone who ( Read more... )

something discovered last night, in the midst of my most recent fall from grace (generally those rude wake-up calls that exist for no other purpose than to remind me that i am human, and fallibility sometimes means "falling", even for me), is that i am frightening my partner. he is afraid of me, and afraid for me, and this has been a consistent, ( Read more... )

one of the things that always fascinated me about the Romance-era Poets and philosophers was their concept of "man and superman" - not the comic book hero, but the concept of the individual striving to achieve ideals, of being somehow "beyond the average". of course, being almost fifteen years past a fourth year honours thesis, i can't remember now ( Read more... )

poor veskrashen - he thinks he's dating one chick, but it's her girlfriend that keep spanking his ass. welcome to your own life, R ( Read more... )

redsash is rapidly becoming one of the most challenging people i know :)

not that i got to see *his* belly-button, but lunchtime conversations have, as they always do with him, provoked some interesting navel-gazing and self-examination.

( yes, it's Another One Of THOSE Posts )