too long for a comment, it gets its own post

[much_ado]

a pretty lad who was awake in the wee small hours this morning asked a couple of fun questions about seduction and courting, namely "What is seduction to you? What is your favourite seduction technique? (as the seducer or seducee

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[crystal_diva]

being a woman with self-esteem issues from early on, seduction as a technique becomes a very cack-handed interaction that is rooted entirely in manipulating situations to make someone else take all the risks; we make ourselves attractive and available in passive ways, never outright stating we're interested or available; that would make us vulnerable, and risk being rejected, something we'd rather avoid than face. and when our sense of our Selves is so deeply rooted in our ability to attract mates in courtship or at the very least sexual attention to prove we're good for something, being rejected is the kiss of death to our egos. so we learn to manipulate *others* into seducing us. someone else takes all the risk, and we are left with plausible deniability intact in case it doesn't all work out to our liking.

Oh GOD, THIS!

I believe you once told me that the reason I wasn't hit on much when I started coming around was that I never made it clear to The Tribe that I was available. This is probably why. After all, why be available

[courtly]

This was interesting. And thought-provoking.

Hm.

[much_ado]

i'll be interested to hear the outcome of those provoked thoughts, should you at some point deign to share them.

[courtly]

Deign!? What are you saying here? LOL