Which Language do You Have Sex In?

[wendykh]

A post on a personal journal has prompted this question, and I thought this would be a fine group of people for the discussion

Comments

[serendipity8791]

I'm Francophone, but I've been thinking and talking to myself mostly in English for the past 16 or 17 years (that's roughly half my life), so it comes (haha, pun intended) out mostly in English, even when my partner was Francophone.

[wendykh]

See now that's interesting because my husband is like you and due to school and work has been basically living in English about half his life. I have a franglophone friend who is francophone with my husband (anglophone with me) and your post prompted me to ask her when they were together if he spoke in French or English with her (it was a long time ago, we're all adults here). She says now that she thinks about it, yeah, he was speaking in English with her too! wtf?? weird!

[serendipity8791]

Well, just like when I write fiction, I find that I sound less silly when I use English instead of French. And I know more colourful sexual language in English than in French as well.

And this totally makes me think of that scene in Forgetting Sarah Marshall when the lead male is having a series of one night stands and eventually winds up with a Japanese woman in bed, and she's all: "Hai... hai..." (*translation, just in case* "Yes... yes..."), and he's all: "Um... hi!... *unsure smile*"

[wendykh]

I think a lot of people find the other language hot :-)

[mauricethebeast]

English, I'm just dirtier in English. Anything I say in French is too polite and proper LOL

[wendykh]

YEAH! Exactly. My exhusband told me once "Porn is in English." I always found that strange but that is why, to him, sex was an English activity.

[mauricethebeast]

Yup, you can't be a dom and talk in French, you come off soft and by you I mean I. It just does not flow properly. If I were to try it I would sound vulgar and disrespectful (in French).

[wendykh]

Maquis de Sade disagrees? Although he's less dom and more just gross.

[danaelaurm]

Complicated: ASL when I'm with another deafie; otherwise equally english and french with some signing depending on the person's spoken language. I was raised in French primarily but with family that is french and english (but learned ASL and some less than stellar LSQ later; also this excludes languages from the migrant side of my family which I wasn't taught).

Talking dirty in french makes me feel like doing a bad rendition of "Je t'aime... moi non plus" at times

[wendykh]

While I thought of the multitude of spoken languages in Montreal, deaf languages never ever occured to me, despite knowing several deaf people. Fascinating, and thank you!

[danaelaurm]

Sign languages are perfect for sex, especially since "intimate signing" can be pretty contact heavy :D

[wendykh]

WOW I never thought of that! :-O

[martinemonster]

I switch to English for two reasons: 1. Dirty stuff sounds even cruder in Norwegian. 2. It's polite to have the other person able to understand what you're saying.

That being said, I work in English and speak English daily, so it's not a big switch.

[wendykh]

A friend of mine who was living abroad said he stayed in the local language because it just felt weird to speak English there. Like there he was a ....Japanophone??? hahaha what Do you call people who speak other languages? and just wasn't an English speaker, whereas here he is.

[embryomystic]

Nihongophone, maybe? I'm pretty sure I've seen Nihongophile somewhere.