tell him you need to know whether or not it's time to get on with your life, because you can't keep hanging around forever. It's not fair to do that, even if he does "feel bad that the situation even happened." With her being in Hawaii I understand he doesn't get to see her really often, but he does need to decide if he's going to even be ABLE to see her enough that she's a viable prospect. Tell him you need a definite time line for when he'll have made his decision. If you can live with that time line, then fine. If that's dragging things out too long for you, then he's just made his decision.
Well, I've told him I'm not hanging around forever. And I've told him I'm not certain how much longer I'll be hanging around. I've also told him that once he tells her about the situation (he's not had the chance to yet) and if she decides to hang around, not to be surprised if that's when I bow out, because I'm not sure I want to fight for someone who's not even sure they want to be with me.
She's only visiting Hawaii, she actually lives in the same area he does.
I just need to figure out how much longer I'm willing to wait. :-/
Also, I'm pretty sure you're the only person who reads my lj anymore. lol.
First off, feel free to tell me to go f-myself for telling you what I think! This is just going to be my opinion, and you know what they say about those and assholes...everybody's got one
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I wrote this entry entirely *for* outside opinions on the situation, so thank you very much for your input. :)
What you said makes a lot of sense... I think if he doesn't make a decision very soon, I will probably do exactly what you have suggested, because I really can't wait around... it makes the parts of me that remember the past rise up in protest and yell at me that I'm being stupid, and I'm just gonna get hurt again.
I think I'm going to give him a little bit more time before I walk away though... I already told him I'm not waiting until she gets back from Hawaii, but maybe me walking away will help him realize what he's losing? Haha, that sounded *really* egotistical.
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She's only visiting Hawaii, she actually lives in the same area he does.
I just need to figure out how much longer I'm willing to wait. :-/
Also, I'm pretty sure you're the only person who reads my lj anymore. lol.
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What you said makes a lot of sense... I think if he doesn't make a decision very soon, I will probably do exactly what you have suggested, because I really can't wait around... it makes the parts of me that remember the past rise up in protest and yell at me that I'm being stupid, and I'm just gonna get hurt again.
I think I'm going to give him a little bit more time before I walk away though... I already told him I'm not waiting until she gets back from Hawaii, but maybe me walking away will help him realize what he's losing? Haha, that sounded *really* egotistical.
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