I had no idea that G flaked on organizing your reception luncheon. How awful that you and Sem had to deal with that the night before!!
And there I was the night before my wedding, crying because I couldn't find my special sexy underwear. Sometimes it takes other people's experiences to put things into perspetive!!
This morning I still woke up very upset, and then I read your reply and suddenly it felt so much less than it felt yesterday. Calling everyone and using your suggestions as a guideline seems do-able now. I actually feel quite a bit better.
Sunday night the baby kicked for 7 hours straight and I never fell asleep. So yesterday I was completely wiped and this only served to exacerbate my feelings.
Thanks for your perspective and for being the voice of reason. I hope you know how much it helped to calm me down!!
You have every right to be upset, though I'm glad you've got a little more perspective now that you've had some rest and some love and support here! I'm glad you're feeling a bit better about it, and I wish you an easy buncha phone calls :-)
Your body is doing probably the most demanding thing it has ever done, marathon(g)s included. Be gentle with yourself, sweetheart. This problem with the no-kids-invitation is not insurmountable, it wasn't your decision, and it'll be okay. And if it's not okay with the parents who have to leave their kids at home, they can take it up with M, not with you. Don't accept any blame in this, okay? If they moan about it, tell them firmly that you are not the one they should complain to. They should complain to the person who excluded their kids.
B, Do as Nancy Reagan suggested and just say no, and walk away. You don't have to try to accommodate everyone else's indecisiveness or aversion to conflict. The only thing you have to do is be pregnant and get rad stuff for the baby.
But I think I need to deal with this by calling people. And in the end it will all be okay. It just felt extra big inside my head yesterday - especially since the baby kicked for 7 hours straight Sunday night and I never went to sleep. I was wiped yesterday and this made things all that much more upsetting.
But from this point forward I'm staying out of anything that has to do with my baby shower. I don't want to know anything or be involved with any of it from this point forward other than just showing up the day of my shower and being happy to see people. And that is the best way to just be pregnant and enjoy the rad stuff!!
The crank in me would just say, "Hey, you guys are throwing me the party - you fix it!" Yet, the Responsible Adult in me would want to take care of it.
I have no answer for you - Personally, I think you shouldn't have to handle it. For friends to let you down in that manner just irks me.
I want to shake 'em and introduce them to Miss Manners!
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And there I was the night before my wedding, crying because I couldn't find my special sexy underwear. Sometimes it takes other people's experiences to put things into perspetive!!
This morning I still woke up very upset, and then I read your reply and suddenly it felt so much less than it felt yesterday. Calling everyone and using your suggestions as a guideline seems do-able now. I actually feel quite a bit better.
Sunday night the baby kicked for 7 hours straight and I never fell asleep. So yesterday I was completely wiped and this only served to exacerbate my feelings.
Thanks for your perspective and for being the voice of reason. I hope you know how much it helped to calm me down!!
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Your body is doing probably the most demanding thing it has ever done, marathon(g)s included. Be gentle with yourself, sweetheart. This problem with the no-kids-invitation is not insurmountable, it wasn't your decision, and it'll be okay. And if it's not okay with the parents who have to leave their kids at home, they can take it up with M, not with you. Don't accept any blame in this, okay? If they moan about it, tell them firmly that you are not the one they should complain to. They should complain to the person who excluded their kids.
Sending heaps of love.
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Thanks for all your advice!!!
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But I think I need to deal with this by calling people. And in the end it will all be okay. It just felt extra big inside my head yesterday - especially since the baby kicked for 7 hours straight Sunday night and I never went to sleep. I was wiped yesterday and this made things all that much more upsetting.
But from this point forward I'm staying out of anything that has to do with my baby shower. I don't want to know anything or be involved with any of it from this point forward other than just showing up the day of my shower and being happy to see people. And that is the best way to just be pregnant and enjoy the rad stuff!!
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The crank in me would just say, "Hey, you guys are throwing me the party - you fix it!" Yet, the Responsible Adult in me would want to take care of it.
I have no answer for you - Personally, I think you shouldn't have to handle it. For friends to let you down in that manner just irks me.
I want to shake 'em and introduce them to Miss Manners!
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