Comments | miera_c: Things of note

miera_c

Things of note

Jan 27, 2010 18:28

I kind of love it when a post on my flist turns into a group of women in academia offering survival tips to each other. (I had a lunch meeting today that was similar, but one on one. And not, you know, on the internet ( Read more... )

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malnpudl January 27 2010, 23:35:25 UTC

finding anything above a 44 in a B cup is like finding a bisexual unicorn English major

THIS DRIVES ME INSANE!!! I can get into frothing-at-the-mouth raving rants over this.

Bra shopping is hell under the best of circumstances. For us, it's hell cubed.

miera_c January 28 2010, 04:42:26 UTC

I KNOW!!! I gave up and bought a bunch of bras online of varying sizes/cups and NONE OF THEM FUCKING FIT COMFORTABLY. I am apparently a non-size.

A friend of mine who lives in Toronto swears by her speciality shop. She promised to take me there next time I visit. *sigh*

melyanna January 28 2010, 00:04:55 UTC

I haven't clicked on the link, but one problem with getting a professional bra fitting is that bra sizes aren't remotely consistent. Despite the supposed formula for band and cup sizes. The best thing to do is try on a lot of bras and see what fits. (Personal opinion here, but I also think that if you're spilling out of your bra and don't want to, you should try going up a band size rather than a cup size.)

I had a discussion with a male friend once about how many women are wearing bras that don't fit them, and he was fairly baffled by it. Eventually I realized that the difference is that nearly every article of clothing he buys is sized in inches, while bras are pretty much the only women's item that's sized that way. I think a lot of women see their measurements and assume that a given bra should work, when the truth is that it's something you need to try on, just like shoes.

miera_c January 28 2010, 04:43:23 UTC

The best thing to do is try on a lot of bras and see what fits.

And if you're me, you do that and discover nothing actually fits comfortably, so you settle for what's least uncomfortable and still pay an insane amount of money for them.

I'm honestly close to trying a corset or just wearing sports bras all the time.

freifraufischer January 28 2010, 06:09:34 UTC

The best thing to do is try on a lot of bras and see what fits.

I do this, and than tend to buy every bra in the store in that style in black, white, and tan.

*for the sake of sharing I am a 42DD*

lyssie January 28 2010, 04:20:46 UTC

Not even through Lane Bryant's over-priced bra factory?

miera_c January 28 2010, 04:41:31 UTC

LB's 46s don't come in smaller than C as far as I can tell. Though I hate all their bras except one single line because strangely, I don't want enormous padded cups making my breasts look bigger or cone shaped and that seems to be all they sell now. (I actually said as much to the sales clerk last time I was in there [buying pants]. She was giving me some spiel about upgrading my credit card and I explained that while I know she's required by the company to say it, I rarely shop there anymore because they don't carry any decent bras. She looked bewildered and I pointed out to her that maybe not every woman on earth wants to make her breasts look as big as humanly possible, especially women are already feeling big enough. She was stunned speechless, like such a thing had never occurred to her before. And damn, I guess I'm still really bitter about that or I wouldn't be ranting quite so long.)

freifraufischer January 28 2010, 06:17:32 UTC

It's not my normal source of bras, but I have a few bras from them with plunging necklines for specific dresses and blouses. And I took the inflatable paddding out of them. At a DD... I really don't need to look like a DDD.

lerah99 January 28 2010, 04:53:32 UTC

OMG! I am a 46B and finding a bra that fits is an epic quest!
Currently, the only place I can find one is at Wal Mart - which hurts me a little inside. I don't want to fund Wal Mart.

Sadly, all the plus sized stores near me don't carry B cups.
I can buy a C cup - but I can't really fill it out properly.

:::Headdesk:::

When I rule the world - there will be B cups for plus sized girls. Also, there will be decent hiking and outdoor gear for plus sized women. Seriously, try to get a nice wicking shirt or convertable pants/shorts in a 2X or 3X. Apparently fat women don't ever, ever, ever, ever go hiking or camping either.

miera_c January 28 2010, 05:36:20 UTC

I WOULD GIVE SO FUCKING MUCH TO BE ABLE TO NOT SHOP AT WALMART.

Really, I know all the reasons not to, but I live in the middle of fucking nowhere. My options are severely limited and I'm just not able to totally avoid shopping at the closest, most well-stocked place.

I've gotten to the point where I buy C cups and stitch darts into them to make the cups smaller and fit better, though this risks a cone effect.

When I rule the world - there will be B cups for plus sized girls. Also, there will be decent hiking and outdoor gear for plus sized women. Seriously, try to get a nice wicking shirt or convertable pants/shorts in a 2X or 3X. Apparently fat women don't ever, ever, ever, ever go hiking or camping either.of course not! We're too fat to do those things! If we'd just show some self-restraint and lose the weight, we'd fit into normal sized clothing. (What's that? How are you supposed to exercise and lose the weight if you can't buy clothes suitable for exercising in? Jeeze, fatty, don't blame me for your problems ( ... )

lerah99 January 28 2010, 13:35:41 UTC

Thank you so much for the link! I will check it out!

Yeah, I have a whole rant about hiking/camping gear and being a plus sized woman. Appearently once you get close to 300lbs, you aren't supposed to wear anything except a housecoat while you hide inside where no one is forced to look at you - Hide your Shame! How DARE you want to go out and do things. And shorts in your size? Think of the Children! We can't have them exposed to flesh that jiggles!

It really pisses me off! (as I'm sure you can tell).

abyssinia4077 January 28 2010, 05:26:44 UTC

*wanders over from some random flist surfing or other*

I kind of love it when a post on my flist turns into a group of women in academia offering survival tips to each other. (I had a lunch meeting today that was similar, but one on one. And not, you know, on the internet).

Is this a public post you could maybe link me too? As a woman working her way that direction, survival tips are always handy.

[and, ugh, bras suck. I have the luck of being the other kind of unicorn, where stores refuse to believe that a band size as "small" as mine could require DD cups and thus don't carry my size. I'm lucky enough to have a size I consistently fit, if only anyone carried it.]

miera_c January 28 2010, 17:22:10 UTC

Unfortunately, no, the post was friends locked so I can't link.

However feel free to ask me or post and I can hook you up with some of the other acafans. We tend to find each other a lot. ;)

abyssinia4077 January 29 2010, 17:48:48 UTC

Fair enough.

I've run across several, and have some on my flist already (though I feel like most acafans I run across are in the humanities and social sciences, which share some of the same problems as my field and in other ways are very different beasts).

I've, um, friended you if you don't mind, especially since some of the awesome people on my flist have already friended you. (man, I've been on LJ for years and I still don't understand whether or not I should bother telling people this)