Hard work

[megrith]

I am trying to stay focused, but it's hard work

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[twistpeach]

reconnect w/ Jana: check.

[megrith]

Reconnect with one of the must understanding people in the known universe: Check.

[frustratedideal]

"I've done it again -- let my life get all emptied out. I don't know if I'll ever know why it's so easy for me to forget how to be a person by myself...I realize that for the last year or more I've been living in the same pattern -- If she is home, I spend time with her. If she's not home, or if she's unavailable, I wait until she is home/available."I have the same pattern in monogamous relationships...and it's starting to cause problems for my current one. Maybe if I had met Justin in Tacoma where I had an established friend group and a whole life to myself, it would have been different, but it's really difficult being in a city I don't want to be in where most of my friends have moved away and those that remain have the opposite schedule of mine, at a job with no social interaction/ability to meet people and not in my field. I'm incredibly bad at balancing my needs with my relationship and I have to figure out how to fix that. Step one for me was quitting my job at Spectrum...step 1.5 is finding a job I like where I can interact

[megrith]

Thank you. It's nice to know other people have similar patterns. I'm excited that you quit your job at Spectrum -- I just changed jobs too, and it made a huge difference. Good luck with the job search.