As a note, the concept of turning pain and suffering into an avenue for growth is rather universal. The way it's handled in the 'States may be culturally biased towards that of a Christian tradition, but that is changing with the greater influence of other traditions in society.
magickalpony, My best recommendation to you is to find something that you enjoy, and just dive into it. It may feel like escapism, but your mind will naturally gravitate to trying to understand your crisis. If you find that you wish the company of others, seek it out. Otherwise, enjoy doing the things you enjoy doing.
There is so much to respond to in this, and much of my reaction is too personal for a LJ post. Speaking generally though you do not have to be alone to be a strong individual. People are social animals like wolves, or sheep. We know that we are stronger as a group, and so we seek relationships. Part of what makes our families, communities, and nations so strong is that different individuals bring different things to the table. In some ways you and I are very much alike, but it is the ways in which we are different that make us a strong team. The best way to have strong relationships wether they be friends, lovers teams, or working is to value each other's strengths and to help one another where we have weakness. I generally think all out qualities might be a strength or a weakness depending upon the circumstances, and what we do with them. Our greatest strengths are often our greatest weakness
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You DO need to be complete within yourself, but that need not negate relationships outside of yourself. On the contrary, the more confident you are, the stronger you are in yourself the better able you will be to deal with building strong relationships.
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It takes more stength to open up, and hence get greater benefits from connection with other people, than it does to stay fully self-sufficient, open up less, and get fewer benefits from those connections.
We may not talk often, but I do consider you a friend, and a good friend at that. Being a friend doesn't require seeing them all the time! That said, I do hope to see you sometime soon... :P I have a couch if you find yourself in the DC area!
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magickalpony, My best recommendation to you is to find something that you enjoy, and just dive into it. It may feel like escapism, but your mind will naturally gravitate to trying to understand your crisis. If you find that you wish the company of others, seek it out. Otherwise, enjoy doing the things you enjoy doing.
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Pain can be an avenue for growth, but I was referring to the notion that pain should be sought as the avenue for growth as a Judeo-Christian concept.
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Yes.
It takes more stength to open up, and hence get greater benefits from connection with other people, than it does to stay fully self-sufficient, open up less, and get fewer benefits from those connections.
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I'm sorry to hear about your breakup with Kat....
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