I guess the "official advice" is "you need to open yourself up and risk getting hurt and..." ...and a bunch of other gorram hogwash.
The notion that growth comes from pain is a cultural thing stemming from Judeo-Christian notions of guilt and such.
That you may have to risk something which might hurt is possible, but not by any means a goal. What you need to risk is to allow change. We can all skim the surface of the world and not be changed by it. Letting the world change you may hurt, but it might feel great.
Personally, I'd say that the bad and the good have balanced pretty well, in that equation. We live on a dirty mud-ball careening around an uncaring star and inhabited in large part by psychopathic apes with delusions of sapience. We also live on a beautiful blue-green marble gliding through space, where a vibrant civilization has sprung up in a geological moment due to our industrious and artistic kin. And we live many places in between those two.
I suppose the trite thing is to advise you to choose which place you like the best, but that's more advice that I would call asinine. Live in all of them, because you can't appreciate the good without understanding the bad.
Ah, well, we have some folks coming over, so I guess I should get a few things tidied up around here.
As a note, the concept of turning pain and suffering into an avenue for growth is rather universal. The way it's handled in the 'States may be culturally biased towards that of a Christian tradition, but that is changing with the greater influence of other traditions in society.
magickalpony, My best recommendation to you is to find something that you enjoy, and just dive into it. It may feel like escapism, but your mind will naturally gravitate to trying to understand your crisis. If you find that you wish the company of others, seek it out. Otherwise, enjoy doing the things you enjoy doing.
I guess the "official advice" is "you need to open yourself up and risk getting hurt and..." ...and a bunch of other gorram hogwash.
The notion that growth comes from pain is a cultural thing stemming from Judeo-Christian notions of guilt and such.
That you may have to risk something which might hurt is possible, but not by any means a goal. What you need to risk is to allow change. We can all skim the surface of the world and not be changed by it. Letting the world change you may hurt, but it might feel great.
Personally, I'd say that the bad and the good have balanced pretty well, in that equation. We live on a dirty mud-ball careening around an uncaring star and inhabited in large part by psychopathic apes with delusions of sapience. We also live on a beautiful blue-green marble gliding through space, where a vibrant civilization has sprung up in a geological moment due to our industrious and artistic kin. And we live many places in between those two.
I suppose the trite thing is to advise you to choose which place you like the best, but that's more advice that I would call asinine. Live in all of them, because you can't appreciate the good without understanding the bad.
Ah, well, we have some folks coming over, so I guess I should get a few things tidied up around here.
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magickalpony, My best recommendation to you is to find something that you enjoy, and just dive into it. It may feel like escapism, but your mind will naturally gravitate to trying to understand your crisis. If you find that you wish the company of others, seek it out. Otherwise, enjoy doing the things you enjoy doing.
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Pain can be an avenue for growth, but I was referring to the notion that pain should be sought as the avenue for growth as a Judeo-Christian concept.
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