I have the ashes of Cashew. I didn't know I'd asked for them back, but back they came in a little box with his name written in calligraphy and a little bunch of flowers to decorate.
The box containing his ashes sits on top of a cupboard where I can't see it. For some reason now I have them, I can't quite move myself to getting rid of them; I'm not sure how and I never find the time to do anything with it yet I don't want it.
All of my other pets now rest either in a grave or were left at the vet for a communal cremation.
We have the ashes of our cat Shorty. We only had him for 3 months, but during that time he was never away from my side, even slept on my legs at night. I cried for a week straight when he died and I cannot image not having his ashes. I don't think it makes you a crazy cat lady. All cats are special, but these two obviously made a different kind of emotional connection with you.
I don't think you're a weirdo for wanting to keep your cat's ashes in a kitty shaped urn. I wish I would have been able to get my dog, Daisy's, ashes when I had to haver her put down. It was just something that I could in no way possibly afford at the time. I could barely afford the vet bill to have her put down.
I think the indoor houseplant is a good idea. I'm terrible with plants, but it never keeps me from having them. (I'm a serial plant-murderer!) In my experience, Peace Lillies are really damned hard to kill. I received a gigantic one when my father passed and I kept it healthy for two whole years before it finally croaked from being peed on by one of the cats. Peace Lillies don't need a lot of sun or water, but cat pee is, apparently, fatal.
As for crazy cat lady... I just adopted another furball last week. Now I am up to four cats. I could really give you a run for your money in the Crazy Cat Lady Olympics.
I could really give you a run for your money in the Crazy Cat Lady Olympics. LOL! And we'd join you there!!
We had 5 cats back in Chile (at one time, and about 8 in total since we got married), and we were constantly fostering strays and nursing litters. We had up 20 cats at some point! XD (counting a bunch of kittens, that is)
Of course that was back in Chile where the humane society is very small and under budget, and there isn't as much control on spaying/neutering pets as here in USA so there are lots of strays in the streets. It's also very common to find whole litters in abandoned house, or hidden between bushes in parks, and such. I can't even count how many times we had neighbor kids asking us to check a bunch of kittens somewhere to see if they had a mommy!cat or not, or just simply finding a anonymous donations of 5 kittens on our door! How can you say not to that!? XD It was exhausting but rewarding :) (and fortunately it was always easy to find families for the kittens once they were old enough. Usually the same
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That is so great that you were able to help those cats and kittens in the way you did. I adopted my newest cat from a co-worker, he is about 11 weeks old and a holy terror. It has been so long since I had a kitten in the house (my other three are 11, 10, and 8 years old, I think. The last one was a stray so I really have no idea how old she is.) I forgot how crazy kittens can be; I haven't slept at all this week! I cannot imagine have more than one at a time. You are a much braver person than I!
I've lost three cats in my life, but never had one dying with us. (And a few others I gave away when I moved here, it was very sad to do, but 5 cats is too much to travel with all of them...) They always just disappear, so I've never really find myself in your situation (and, tbh never even think much about it until now), but probably I'd have kept Muchi's ashes if I could, as she was the closest cat I ever had. (though probably not inside the house, if possible).
Also, this doesn't make a crazy cat lady, it makes you someone who loved her cats. <3 It's only natural to worry about the best way to handle their remains.
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The box containing his ashes sits on top of a cupboard where I can't see it. For some reason now I have them, I can't quite move myself to getting rid of them; I'm not sure how and I never find the time to do anything with it yet I don't want it.
All of my other pets now rest either in a grave or were left at the vet for a communal cremation.
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I think the indoor houseplant is a good idea. I'm terrible with plants, but it never keeps me from having them. (I'm a serial plant-murderer!) In my experience, Peace Lillies are really damned hard to kill. I received a gigantic one when my father passed and I kept it healthy for two whole years before it finally croaked from being peed on by one of the cats. Peace Lillies don't need a lot of sun or water, but cat pee is, apparently, fatal.
As for crazy cat lady... I just adopted another furball last week. Now I am up to four cats. I could really give you a run for your money in the Crazy Cat Lady Olympics.
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LOL! And we'd join you there!!
We had 5 cats back in Chile (at one time, and about 8 in total since we got married), and we were constantly fostering strays and nursing litters. We had up 20 cats at some point! XD (counting a bunch of kittens, that is)
Of course that was back in Chile where the humane society is very small and under budget, and there isn't as much control on spaying/neutering pets as here in USA so there are lots of strays in the streets. It's also very common to find whole litters in abandoned house, or hidden between bushes in parks, and such. I can't even count how many times we had neighbor kids asking us to check a bunch of kittens somewhere to see if they had a mommy!cat or not, or just simply finding a anonymous donations of 5 kittens on our door! How can you say not to that!? XD It was exhausting but rewarding :) (and fortunately it was always easy to find families for the kittens once they were old enough. Usually the same ( ... )
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Also, this doesn't make a crazy cat lady, it makes you someone who loved her cats. <3 It's only natural to worry about the best way to handle their remains.
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