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Mar 23, 2006 09:22

Thanks for all the advice about the PC yesterday. Naturally, I suspect I will do absolutely nothing about it, as I'm just too scared of breaking things irretrievably. Then again, I have been thinking (for a while) that I should upgrade my PC and get my own ADSL setup as obviously the ones I have are just loitering reminders of that fucked-up ( Read more... )

whinging, lame validation, work

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djm4 March 23 2006, 10:00:19 UTC

If it's any consolation, a whois query on lozette.net confirms that you own the domain, not your ex. He may be able to remove the web space, and to gain temporary control over the domain (is he 'Gradwell dot com limited'?) but legally you own it and should be able to get it back if he does.

You should be angry with anyone who mocks you like that, IMO.

lozette March 23 2006, 10:32:29 UTC

Yeah, I own the domain, just don't have anywhere to host it. I should sort it out when I get back from holiday. I guess it can't be *that* hard, and hopefully I can do it without having to talk to the ex!

velvetdahlia March 23 2006, 10:43:31 UTC

You can do it without talking to him. You just need to transfer the domain to a differnt registrar, and find webspace to put your stuff. I use NameSecure-- your new registrar will produce the paperwork, though it will cost $20 or something.

I can also help you mirror the site ASAP if you like, so you don't lose anything. Finding webspace is easy. I hear good things about Laughing Squid. I use Earthlink and have extra space, but you might want your own. (if you have a paid LJ account, you can upload your pics to scrap book and have your journal page be lozette.net for the short term) I can help you with this stuff some weekend-- If he needs to be contacted for anything, I'll do it for you as your "consultant". haha.

lozette March 23 2006, 10:46:11 UTC

Hehe, that would be awesome, having you do it as a "consultant" ;-)

I want to sort it out when I get back from holiday after April 3rd. This is all way overdue...

enchochada March 23 2006, 10:24:14 UTC

Bin the mugs. Tonight, when you get home. If possible go and throw them at something, and enjoy it. I personally think it's a bit weird that not only was he still hanging onto mugs from so long ago, but that he felt the need to tell you they were a wedding present. That's weird.

Mugs are disposable items. They break. So break them!

enchochada March 23 2006, 10:27:33 UTC

I posted that before I read the rest of the post. Now I'm extremely cross about people mocking you. Next time they do it, let them finish and then ask them with a very serious voice what they meant. Usually they'll start saying they were 'only' joking or some such crap, but keep at it, just keep asking them what did they mean. It will make them really uncomfortable when they start to realise what've been doing.

You're worth a million of them, you really are. Don't let their bullshit grind you down. xx

lozette March 23 2006, 10:33:37 UTC

They're just fuckwits and I shouldn't let it get to me. It just galls me when I have people going "but it's *only* £300!" or whatever, when they live with their doctor girlfriends, or their parents. Try paying a mortgage on your salary alone, then tell me you can pull £300 out of your ass! Grrrrr.

emmy_mallow March 23 2006, 10:48:30 UTC

CHUCK IT ALL OUT!

You'll feel so much better, believe me.

As for the retard fuckwits you work with - death by blunt spoon is too good for em.

velvetdahlia March 23 2006, 10:50:48 UTC

I second enchochada, you need to smash the mugs with abandon! ENJOY IT! (maybe throw them at your coworkers?)

It's royally shitty that your coworkers are winding you up at a time when things are extremely difficult for you. They are idiots. Short of developing teflon skin overnight, you need to protect yourself.

This may sound new age and lame, but can you picture yoruself in an egg, or some other shape, enclosed, when you go to work? Picture it in a color that feels "strong" to you-- dail it up (opaque), or down (transparent), depending. When they are having a laugh at your expense, watch it bounce off your strength and smile-- you've won!

(I use a coral egg, and if anything it gives me something to distranct myself with when I feel under attack-- it's a reminder to push back rather than "soak in" when people are being mean.)

lozette March 23 2006, 11:11:05 UTC

I want to smash the mugs but I'm not sure where I could take them without making the people on the estate think I'm some vandal ;-) Maybe I can find an empty paladin and throw them in it, and let them smash...

The egg thing is I good idea. I need to stop letting them get to me somehow. I used to have a very "whatever" attitude, but since the thing with my dad I've become a bit unhinged :-/

emmy_mallow March 23 2006, 11:17:32 UTC

Put them in a freezer bag, put the bag on the floor - smash with hammer or similar smashy object, put freezer bag in bin.

No mess.
No fuss ;0)

lozette March 23 2006, 11:47:44 UTC

I'm going to do that, but it's going to have to be outside otherwise I'll damage my floor. Going to get me some funny looks, for sure ;-)

thecaretaker March 23 2006, 11:01:44 UTC

I remember when I switches schools from Uni to college (kindof) everyone at college was amazed I didn't move back in with my parents. "So much easier" they all said. I laughed at them very hard.

You should do the same when mock you and tell them "go back to mommy" or something.

Anyway... Have a blast on your holiday! And don't worry too much about opinions from people who are not in the same situation as you are in. They don't know what they're talking about.