Burgundy, I *always* miss you. I just know that hermits prefer limited communication. ;-)
Also, I will be back in DC on August 10th. Will you be around then? Because if so, we should go out some night before the rush of schools starts again.
Why the hell are you judging your friendships based on his standards? Shouldn't you have friends and relationships based on YOUR characteristics? You work better the way you are - so what? How does that make you a bad person?
It makes me kind of sucky because I have a hard time responding to my friends. It would be different if i were home with a home line - I don't know what it is about a cellphone. I feel like there is no freedom. Like you can never just be by yourself. It seems intrusive as much as it helps. I don't know
I feel like half of that applies to me to. I HATE phones. HATE HATE HATE HATE. I always have my cell turned off, I do my best not to answer the phone when I'm at home and I almost NEVER actually call someone. The worst part about my job last summer was making confirmation calls. My heart started pounding every time. If someone calls me, I'll talk and talk and be happy, but I have this extreme discomfort about calling other people... no matter who they are. You, Margaret, my family, doesn't make a difference. And I feel like I don't make the effort to keep relationships going. I'm so frightened. I honestly feel like I'm going to lose you now that our contact is mostly limited to phone and computer. I feel like I'll lose ALL my friends when the time comes for us to all move away from Rhinebeck and start on our own lives. I'm just as social/ anti-social as I've been my whole life, but now I feel like the stakes are different. I too am avoiding people on aim. Hence, I am NEVER on. And I've kinda worked my way into a busy contentment with
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oh man, if there is anyone I'm not worried about - it's you! We're gonna be friends even if we don't hang out every day, I know that much.
I wonder if this whole college time is about learning your place in relationships and the world and stuff. I've realized friends make me happier and more content, especially when it comes down to just having someone to talk to. But I don't know.
Anyway I have to go use the shower, we're leaving soon. I think next weekend I will either go there, or you should come here. And You know, about the phone, something that keeps me going is the fact that back in the old days you didn't have a phone, and you didn't have the internet, and all those people survived and had long lasting relationships. I think we've just turned into an overbearing clingy society. We over do it. I would do well in the 1700's just seeing people and writing letters I think sometimes.
for the most part, people aren't going to be as upset as you think they are. people like having friends, esp. awesome ones, and they aren't going to dump you just because you don't call them over the summer. it might actually make you seem more unattainable, not that that's what you're going for. also no one calls anyone over the summer no matter how much they like them.
i know that you want to have productive hanging out time, but you might have to take what you can get. i don't know, that seems kind of depressing, but i feel like i spend time doing things I don't like with or for people I like. sometimes it makes me feel worse, but sometimes it makes me feel better. up to you.
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I just know that hermits prefer limited communication. ;-)
Also, I will be back in DC on August 10th. Will you be around then? Because if so, we should go out some night before the rush of schools starts again.
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I think I'll be back the night before training - so august 13th maybe? I forget if training is august 13th or 14th. But we should hang out, for sure.
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It makes me kind of sucky because I have a hard time responding to my friends. It would be different if i were home with a home line - I don't know what it is about a cellphone. I feel like there is no freedom. Like you can never just be by yourself. It seems intrusive as much as it helps. I don't know
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I wonder if this whole college time is about learning your place in relationships and the world and stuff. I've realized friends make me happier and more content, especially when it comes down to just having someone to talk to. But I don't know.
Anyway I have to go use the shower, we're leaving soon. I think next weekend I will either go there, or you should come here. And You know, about the phone, something that keeps me going is the fact that back in the old days you didn't have a phone, and you didn't have the internet, and all those people survived and had long lasting relationships. I think we've just turned into an overbearing clingy society. We over do it. I would do well in the 1700's just seeing people and writing letters I think sometimes.
Love!
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for the most part, people aren't going to be as upset as you think they are. people like having friends, esp. awesome ones, and they aren't going to dump you just because you don't call them over the summer. it might actually make you seem more unattainable, not that that's what you're going for. also no one calls anyone over the summer no matter how much they like them.
i know that you want to have productive hanging out time, but you might have to take what you can get. i don't know, that seems kind of depressing, but i feel like i spend time doing things I don't like with or for people I like. sometimes it makes me feel worse, but sometimes it makes me feel better. up to you.
anyway hope this helps. :)
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don't change.
And yeah, that really helped. I hope boston is going well!!
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