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DISCUSSION - friends with benefits

Jun 01, 2008 13:15

I'm pulling a response to THIS POST and opening up another one of these discussions.

previous discussions;
→ homosexual derrogatory terms, "gay"
→ being politically correct in terms of race
→ female masturbation
→ abortion
→ lesbians, idk

question;
the phenomenon today that in many colleges, dating is out, replaced by friends with benefits/sex ( Read more... )

debate and discussion post

Comments 15

the_justiner June 1 2008, 19:23:00 UTC

I've really messed up in this area...and I totally regret it. I like the IDEA of being able to be intimately involved with someone with no emotional attachments, but it fucking scarred me for life.

friendsholic June 1 2008, 19:23:01 UTC

I don't think it's an in or out things but rather what the person is looking for in the relationship.
I personally, am all for friends with benefits. Why? Because, i prefer not to get emotionally attached to someone else. I rather have a good time, hang out and have my needs taken care of in the process without the relationship label attached to it.
To me sex is just sex. I do not think it's beautiful. Nor do I ever thought it had a value. Sex has always been sex since the very beginning and nothing about it has changed. I think it's natural, dirty/messy and feels good.

zorabet June 1 2008, 19:56:29 UTC

I can't speak from any experience in regards to friends with benefits, but here's what I can add ( ... )

icarus_abides June 2 2008, 01:15:03 UTC

I personally love having a FWB. Mine was in sophomore and junior year of college and it was a great set-up. Basically we only called each other when we wanted sex. Granted, we were always drunk when this happened (I am ashamed to admit that there was never an exception; there was always booze). Other than that, there was no emotional attachment. Actually we didn't even see each other unless we happened to come to the same party or something. It was a good arrangement for me because I hate feeling obligated to be with another person. I don't get emotionally invested in relationships at ALL and, to be perfectly honest, don't want to be around a guy unless I am in the mood. I don't want dating or gifts or anniversaries or jealousy. I just wanted raw, physical sex. And the sex with my FWB was GOOD, so that was an added bonus ( ... )

zorabet June 2 2008, 04:07:54 UTC

omg share plz.

icarus_abides June 2 2008, 05:21:07 UTC

Share the boy or share the details?

Because, knowing him, he would not have a problem taking on another FWB.

Silly boy ;)

zorabet June 2 2008, 05:24:03 UTC

The boy. I can work details out from there. ;)

He might have a problem with the illegality of me being underage, eh? *pouts*

I think I'm late... theonlyink June 2 2008, 04:20:22 UTC

Personally I think think that FWB are becoming more common. Mostly because a lot of women think that feminism means being equal to men. This becomes a problem because in the mind of third wave feminist "being equal to men" equals being as sexually rampant and open as any man whore. I would encourage any self-respecting woman to read 'Girls Gone Mild' the author is a brilliant woman and She's on my list of people to meet ( ... )

Re: I think I'm late... palmaceae June 2 2008, 05:44:07 UTC

i read that book! i wish i remembered everything it said, i need to go read it again. it was really a great book.

Re: I think I'm late... theonlyink June 2 2008, 06:04:08 UTC

I re read it a lot.
I think I lend it out more than I re read it though.