In which our heroine lives with hope and faith, and stops being such a doormat.

[lightningflash]

[sidenote: you may (or may not...) have noticed that I've changed the subject lines of my posts. I've decided to give the song-lyrics a rest, and have started essentially narrating the "chapters" of my life, as it were. So, there's that :P]

Work:
My last day at McK was March 30, and I'm so glad for it to be over.

Comments

[entropic_system]

The whole bit with your sister is kind of beyond the pale of sibling rivalry. I'm kind of glad my sister and I have the kind of relationship we do (now). We're both very clever with words and extremely good at driving a knife in, if we want. Our fights, verbal and otherwise, when we were younger, were positively brutal.

But we outgrew it.

Doesn't sound like your sister has. Maybe drag her outside by the hair and beat the holy ever-living shit out of her?

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The bizarre thing is that she thinks she's "right" to say such things. And so does her husband with some of the pointed things HE says. There was one comment over the weekend (not documented here, I forget what it was), and I said something back that was more of an observation than anything, and he said I was smart-mouthing back. Oh. So it's ok for him to do it, but not me(even when I wasn't)? Bah.

I really wish we got along better. When things are good, we can have a great time and I'd probably be down in PDX more often to visit them. But I just feel so awkward now, I don't do it at all.

[entropic_system]

Was he being serious when he said that? If so, he's a fucking douche.

[lightningflash]

Yeah, I think so. Although sometimes with him, it's hard to tell... but I think so.

[electriclime]

I kinda want to smack your sister. Or put her in a room with MY sister. Maybe they can end it with a death punch.

[lightningflash]

What really gets me is that my friends totally understand why this was a nasty thing to say, yet my family thinks it's perfectly acceptable. I almost expect it of her at this point - it happens at least once a family visit. In talking with my BFF and usually making an observation like "we made it to the last night of our time together before she said _______," or "it's a 48-hour trip, let's see how long it takes for a barb to be sunk in," it's just what she does. And then Gretchen wonders why I bother going to family functions. But for the rest of the family to have such double standards and think it's OK? That really twirks me more than anything.

[electriclime]

So would it be inappropriate (since your family apparently has no moral boundaries) to reply to your sister with "at lesat my vagina isn't well used , coming AND going!" ....???

[lightningflash]

She would probably reply with something along the lines of "at least mine has HAD some use!" She ALWAYS has to have the last word!

There was a convo with her a while back (like 5+ years or more) stemming from her dress size when she got married. She was a size 4 and it still had to be taken in, she was so tiny. She's bigger than me now (she carried heavy in her pregnancy), and in this conversation I mentioned that she's not a size 4 now. Her response was "yeah, but I've had two children - what's YOUR excuse?"

She also asked me, when I was in 5th grade or so and showing her my class picture and pointing out my friends, why I "always had to be friends with the fat girls?"