learning to ask for help

[kimberly_a]

I just realized yesterday that I can actually ask friends with cars for help sometimes, now that it's harder for me to go long distances, haul heavy stuff in my backpack, etc. It totally hadn't occurred to me until yesterday that friends with cars might be willing to help occasionally, and that I could ask. I even have two car-owning friends who

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[wild_irises]

When abostick59's mother was dying, I made a conscious decision to learn to ask for help while I was healthy, because I could see how hard it was for her to learn in a weakened condition. I wouldn't say I've done spectacularly at it, but I've made some distance. From what I see from the outside, you're kind of partway between the state she was in and a strong state, and learning will be harder, so go you for trying!

Also, on this last trip I figured out that my "I never travel with luggage I can't handle myself" was a privileged statement. I did travel with luggage I could handle myself, though my shoulder bag got awfully heavy when the laptop was in it and I had to walk long distances. But someday I will likely have to travel with luggage I can't handle myself, and I need to make the transition in my brain to see that as reasonable.

Hard shit, worth doing, in my opinion.