It's almost scary how similar your grandmother's situation is to mine. Mine went into the hospital in September after a stroke caused her to have a brain bleed; she fell and broke three ribs. Since then her sight has worsened to the point where she can barely see anything. Her memory has been bad for a long time but it's even worse at this point, and she doesn't always recognize people. She really wants to die or leave the nursing home, but she can't, and she's really miserable. It's at times like these when I wish euthanasia was a legal option.
I'm sorry to hear about your grandparents; you're not alone.
Liiizzzz, I'm so happy and so lucky to have a friend with as big a heart as you have. ;3; And I'm sorry you have to feel all of the bad emotions as much as the good ones in order to have such a heart, but I think it's worth it, and I think it makes (and will continue to make) you a very strong and well-loved person.
I don't think necessarily you need to feel sad. You know as well as everyone that it's time. When my great-grandmother passed away, she was in a similar state; no attention span, pained, didn't want to be there. My step-grandmother was the same.
Mourning isn't always feeling sad that a person is gone. Mourning can also be joy that a person lived. That in those many, rich years they lived, they survived and made a life for themselves. A funeral is more like a graduation ceremony. It's a celebration that you got through life and made it. There are tragic circumstances, yes... But in these cases... I think there should be joy that the person has found release. I believe in a God, and a Heaven, so I cling to that faith and it grounds me. But even without that, death is never wholly a bad thing. It's as much a part of life as birth is, as breathing and falling in love
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I have tears in my eyes reading this, because even though I only met Berniece and your dad's parents a few times, I love you and I love your family and it makes me so sad... Well, to see it drawn out. I know Berniece is unhappy, and your grandfather, and thinking about aging and their situations, just makes me wish they could have it the way they wanted. I hope your mom and dad are doing okay, and big hugs for both of them. And I hope you are doing okay. It's hard to watch, and hard to be there, when you know you can't make it stop for them and you can't bring back who they used to be. Just...lots of hugs for you and your family. Love you.
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I'm sorry to hear about your grandparents; you're not alone.
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Hold strong. ♥
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Mourning isn't always feeling sad that a person is gone. Mourning can also be joy that a person lived. That in those many, rich years they lived, they survived and made a life for themselves. A funeral is more like a graduation ceremony. It's a celebration that you got through life and made it. There are tragic circumstances, yes... But in these cases... I think there should be joy that the person has found release. I believe in a God, and a Heaven, so I cling to that faith and it grounds me. But even without that, death is never wholly a bad thing. It's as much a part of life as birth is, as breathing and falling in love ( ... )
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