I don't think necessarily you need to feel sad. You know as well as everyone that it's time. When my great-grandmother passed away, she was in a similar state; no attention span, pained, didn't want to be there. My step-grandmother was the same.
Mourning isn't always feeling sad that a person is gone. Mourning can also be joy that a person lived. That in those many, rich years they lived, they survived and made a life for themselves. A funeral is more like a graduation ceremony. It's a celebration that you got through life and made it. There are tragic circumstances, yes... But in these cases... I think there should be joy that the person has found release. I believe in a God, and a Heaven, so I cling to that faith and it grounds me. But even without that, death is never wholly a bad thing. It's as much a part of life as birth is, as breathing and falling in love.
I'm not the wise type. But As a friend, let me tell you not to force yourself to feel sad for anyone's expense. You should feel the way you feel, because it's what's in your heart. I hope for your family's sake that she finds relief soon, and that you feel peace about all that's happening.
Mourning isn't always feeling sad that a person is gone. Mourning can also be joy that a person lived. That in those many, rich years they lived, they survived and made a life for themselves. A funeral is more like a graduation ceremony. It's a celebration that you got through life and made it. There are tragic circumstances, yes... But in these cases... I think there should be joy that the person has found release. I believe in a God, and a Heaven, so I cling to that faith and it grounds me. But even without that, death is never wholly a bad thing. It's as much a part of life as birth is, as breathing and falling in love.
I'm not the wise type. But As a friend, let me tell you not to force yourself to feel sad for anyone's expense. You should feel the way you feel, because it's what's in your heart. I hope for your family's sake that she finds relief soon, and that you feel peace about all that's happening.
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