from the corners of my mouth

[johnnyfavorite]

I saw this WikiHow article linked from Google’s home page today, and thought it was something I could learn from, so I read it. This is the most unnerving thing in there: Consider that a person whom you detest is invariably your “perfect” mirror - they are just like you.Okay, that’s a pretty ugly thing to think about. I’ll try to trace along the

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Chewing the Fat

[agmsmith]

It's an interesting technique for making people think about how they treat other people and how others treat them. But that's usually automatically done by the desire of people to chew over details of unusual social situations (perhaps thinking intensely instead of sleeping), often invoking their peers by recounting the events and trying to get them to agree with their own conclusions ("I did the right thing, didn't I

Re: Chewing the Fat

[johnnyfavorite]

i should mention, for the benefit of everybody who might be reading, that i have two half-sisters, one older than me, one younger. i have some disagreements with the older one, but i think that relationship is on the mend. i particularly like her kids. it's the younger one who i haven't spoken to in years, who is in my opinion a weak, petty, egotistical liar. i bet i'll be writing about both of these people more in the future. it is time

[marilynxmonster]

The update at the end seems contradictory to me. I'm very reflective, empathic and far too analytical for my own good, and that causes me to "hide within" which causes me to appear like I'm all those negative attributes that non-reflective people are supposed to show. I think I care how I'm viewed to the point that I am afraid to be viewed, so I behave timidly in public even though I would be enjoying myself so much more if I just let myself do what the imaginary me in my head is doing (I've got a one woman Glee Club in there). Deep down, I think I'm afraid that no one will like the "imaginary" me or that the things she wants to do will get me in trouble, so I don't let her out very often. Part of Marilyn's role in my life is to be that girl I'm too scared to let others see. The sad thing is that I didn't used to hide her, but I was surrounded by people who loved and understood her and were just as bizarre and quirky. Now they've all moved on with their lives, and the girl I want to be again doesn't know where she stands in my new

[johnnyfavorite]

This is a side of you I've never seen. I had no idea that you were like this! I sense you've got many good stories in this vein. I would like to hear more.

Just to make sure I'm not stoking your paranoia, I can assure you that the person I had in mind when I posted that update was definitely not you. It was a guy I used to work with, that Steph became friends with as well. She likes to point out that I am often attracted to charismatic egotistical fair weather friends, and it always ends badly. Were she reading, I think she could come up with another couple of examples.

Specifics of that particular guy and/or you notwithstanding, I believe the words in general are true. If you want people to engage with you, the real you, you have to think about how you are being perceived.