It's good to let it out. While I'm glad that medical issues got successfully taken care of, I'm sorry that the bills are doing their number on you. That really, really sucks. :(
And life is so weird. I'm in the somewhat odd opposite situation. I have a tendency to be of a rather traditional mindset, so I've never really pictured myself moving away -- I always saw myself as sticking around and taking care of la familia, what little of it there is. But at some point within the past year, as my mom was just talking about things, she said something along the lines of "and I'm doing blah blah blah because you shouldn't be hanging around to take care of me when I'm old." It was just an offhand statement, nothing expecting any sort of reply, but I was too taken aback to say anything anyway. And there I was, for the first time, really having the question of where the hell I was going to go with my life shoved into my face, because I'd always just assumed... And for me, I think it really was... sort of an inadvertent slap in the face at
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Hahah I'm not even sure I think of it as a choice lately, man. Like it's just "This is what is happening; this is the best solution for all involved, so this is what needs to be done." Any other option at this point in time just feels BAD to me, so.
Thank yooouuu, I hope it does too. \o/ MAYBE THEY WILL WIN THE LOTTO OR SOMETHING EQUALLY MAGICAL.
Yeah idk what the feeling is. It's just that NATURAL REACTION of "oshi do stuff for family 8E" or. Something. BUT YES and stfu well wishes are totally helpful. ♥
Without wishing to put down your epiphany... if you haven't already it may be worth sitting down with your parents and going 'guys I know this is already a crazy touchy subject, but this is how I've been feeling what do you think?'. Because... while financially supporting your parents is good, of course, your parents may be the sort to want you to be going out there and doing your own thing. I've lent my parents a lot of money and it was by tooth and nail that I had to force down the interest they felt they owed me to a minimum; many parents will prefer their kids get out there into the world without feeling held back. Your plan is a perfectly acceptable one but your parents should want you to help as well as you wanting to help, otherwise you run the risk of their getting upset over your feeling obligated, and you getting upset because they seem upset, and then lol vicious circle. Make sure you're meeting at both ends
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DID THAT. Mom thinks it's a fine idea and was touched. Dad would be grumpy, but everything makes him grumpy these days. And then we had a ridiculous talk about winning the lotto and building a house with an indoor pool and cool walkways and stuff.
I'm not sure if they've tried that or not yet, but I'll bring it up next time the subject comes up. |Db
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And life is so weird. I'm in the somewhat odd opposite situation. I have a tendency to be of a rather traditional mindset, so I've never really pictured myself moving away -- I always saw myself as sticking around and taking care of la familia, what little of it there is. But at some point within the past year, as my mom was just talking about things, she said something along the lines of "and I'm doing blah blah blah because you shouldn't be hanging around to take care of me when I'm old." It was just an offhand statement, nothing expecting any sort of reply, but I was too taken aback to say anything anyway. And there I was, for the first time, really having the question of where the hell I was going to go with my life shoved into my face, because I'd always just assumed... And for me, I think it really was... sort of an inadvertent slap in the face at ( ... )
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Thank yooouuu, I hope it does too. \o/ MAYBE THEY WILL WIN THE LOTTO OR SOMETHING EQUALLY MAGICAL.
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ISN'T MAGIC IS SUPPOSED TO BE HAPPENING EVERYDAY, MAN? TIME FOR IT TO HAPPEN TO ALL OF US.
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I'm not sure if they've tried that or not yet, but I'll bring it up next time the subject comes up. |Db
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It might be worth it. It means that your month-by-month income may be lower but not having to liquidate chunks of savings does wonders for the ego.
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