Wow, at least it finally got done in the end! My crockpot pork recipe (which is only seasoned with salt and smoke) takes about 20 hours, but somehow I thought it might go faster for you, since slow cookers are usually just that, slower than other methods.
Um, regarding the funeral. *thinks* I've only been to one funeral myself, that of my sister's mother-in-law. If you're not really that close to his daughter, such that you don't feel that your presence would be comforting, I think it's probably all right to send a note or card of condolence. But if you think that she would miss you if you weren't there, you should probably go.
Heh. Well, it could have been more tender, but whatever. It's edible:P
Thanks for the rec on the service. I've been leaning towards skip it, but I have one friend who doesn't mind funerals and thinks that whenever the option presents itself, one should attend.
I think you could probably skip the service. The immediate family will have enough people to deal with, and if you're not comfortable going, then you can stay home and not add to their logistical problem. But definitely send a card. Cards can be read at leisure, and re-read, and they don't bother anyone. They just sort of sit around until they're needed.
Well, rabbit blood comes from rabbits:) We bought a frozen rabbit the other day and it's been thawing in my fridge. Unfortunately, neither the bag it was packed in nor the bag it was stored in were without holes, so blood got on my apples and oranges and on the bottom shelf (and in the drawer with the apples:P).
Thanks for the advice on the memorial service. I've been leaning towards not going, but it's a very weak feeling as I know other people who feel very strongly that if a funeral service presents itself, one should go:P
I think a card is a good idea. If you feel like it would be awkward for you to be there with someone with whom you've fallen out of touch, you probably wouldn't be the only one. Sending a card extends compassion without creating drama.
Well, except I did call the daughter the day I found out her father had died. We had a nice chat and I invited her over, but I doubt she'll make it over this week (her last week before work starts up again).
I don't think there'd be any drama, but it seems like it would be a lot of effort on my part and not much effect on the other end. A card would seem to make a stronger impression, in my opinion. Probably the really right thing to do is to go to the service and send a card, but I'd rather just send a card.
Chocolate cinnamon bread? *perks up* Homemade or store-bought? If homemade, any chance to get the recipe?
As for the funeral - if the situation were reversed, how much would it mean to you to have the formerly-close friend show up at your dad's service? Or would it still touch you if they wrote a note, just to know they still were thinking of you?
Yeah, it was homemade. I'm hoping cryingbaby will post the recipe and I can snag it:)
Hmm. *thinks about the situation* Most of my friends would have a hard time getting to a funeral for my dad no one lives where he might be buried. And almost none of my friends know my dad (I knew both the parents and the daughter, in this case. It was actually through the parents that I met the daughter.)
It would definitely touch me if they just wrote a note. I am pretty sure that a service for my dad would be attended by a humongous number of people, so close friends of mine from the past would not really be noticed much, I don't think.
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Um, regarding the funeral. *thinks* I've only been to one funeral myself, that of my sister's mother-in-law. If you're not really that close to his daughter, such that you don't feel that your presence would be comforting, I think it's probably all right to send a note or card of condolence. But if you think that she would miss you if you weren't there, you should probably go.
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Thanks for the rec on the service. I've been leaning towards skip it, but I have one friend who doesn't mind funerals and thinks that whenever the option presents itself, one should attend.
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I think you could probably skip the service. The immediate family will have enough people to deal with, and if you're not comfortable going, then you can stay home and not add to their logistical problem. But definitely send a card. Cards can be read at leisure, and re-read, and they don't bother anyone. They just sort of sit around until they're needed.
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Thanks for the advice on the memorial service. I've been leaning towards not going, but it's a very weak feeling as I know other people who feel very strongly that if a funeral service presents itself, one should go:P
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I don't think there'd be any drama, but it seems like it would be a lot of effort on my part and not much effect on the other end. A card would seem to make a stronger impression, in my opinion. Probably the really right thing to do is to go to the service and send a card, but I'd rather just send a card.
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As for the funeral - if the situation were reversed, how much would it mean to you to have the formerly-close friend show up at your dad's service? Or would it still touch you if they wrote a note, just to know they still were thinking of you?
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Hmm. *thinks about the situation* Most of my friends would have a hard time getting to a funeral for my dad no one lives where he might be buried. And almost none of my friends know my dad (I knew both the parents and the daughter, in this case. It was actually through the parents that I met the daughter.)
It would definitely touch me if they just wrote a note. I am pretty sure that a service for my dad would be attended by a humongous number of people, so close friends of mine from the past would not really be noticed much, I don't think.
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