I am an immature idiot, but finally I have learned.

[ishana]

A few years back I whined about a friend of mine who stiffed me for my birthday party.  After talking with her, and trying very hard to make things work, I thought perhaps we would be good friends again.

Boy was I ever wrong.  I didn't even know how much I was being used.  What a lapdog I have been!  I am stupid and loyal to a fault.  I have stood

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[isobael]

I'm sorry you had to go through that with your (ex) best friend.

I've had friends tell me they'll keep in contact and no worries, when I moved to a different city, 45 minutes away...and nothing. I tried to email them and got little replies, so I pretty much ended the friendships.

My best friend lives thousands of miles away, unfortunately. *sigh*

[ishana]

Thanks. I don't really understand why she has chosen to be this way, but then perhaps I have tried to hard not to let the relationship die its natural death when I should have.

I am feeling very vulnerable right now because of my dad and my stupid job.

[a1057soul]

some people are crappy friends, some people just stop caring, and some people are just oblivious to it all.

it always sucks tho when someone moves out of your life.

*HUGS* Ishy!

:o.
Dan

[ishana]

Thanks sweetie! It does suck.

[benedictionfoam]

I think some people are just no good at consoling others. If you tell them about serious problems you've had in your life, they're literally at a loss for words. And maybe they find it especially awkward over the net.

Sorry I'm kind of playing devil's advocate here. I agree that it sounds like you don't need this person in your life.

[ishana]

That's a good point. She's very self-centered. But at least an acknowledgment would have been nice.

I haven't posted here in a while, so I suppose I'm one to talk!
;-)

[benedictionfoam]

Well, yeah, I did kind of wonder whatever happened to you. :)

[ishana]

Been working for the gov't, and it's hard to use LJ privately on their computers!

[caelidh]

I can totally relate to this. I have had several do this to me. It is painful and it sucks.

I think we unconsciously sometimes move away from each other and are not aware of how our intereactions with our 'friends' shifts and fades over time.

Usually we are on different sides of the awareness. one Unaware that anything is wrong.... and never gives voice to any problems.. and the other who is confused about what is going on.. unaware that something was wrong... but is on the "hurt" end.

I don't know why things end up like this.. but I have more stories like this than I would like to count!.

I wish you well. and hope the hurt goes away.

Namaste

[ishana]

Thanks, Caelidh. I'm getting over it, and having a place to talk about it helps.

[lefresne]

I can absolutely relate to this. I had a similar situation when I lived in Illinois. I'm sorry --I know it hurts. Not just a balance sheet situation either, you don't strike me as that type of person, but more of you having a significant situation, a time when you need friends to be there for you and she's too wrapped up in her own minor stuff. That's very hard.
I hope your moving on from this is easy, and then tell me how you did it!

[ishana]

You know, talking about it here, having others to relate to helps.

I need to spend more time with you folks here at LJ. I have fallen out of touch with my online friends, I'm afraid.