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[icecoldblue]

EDIT: So I broke down and called him. He apparently didn't call me because he thought I was mad for a stupid reason. At the time I just bitched and told him my side, but now that I'm starting to go over the whole conversation I'm realizing he was being amazingly selfish even when he was apologizing. His argument was that he had a great time and he

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[eyesofshinigami]

Honey, that makes me RAGE.

No, you're not being ridiculous. You have every right and more to be angry about that. That's just complete and utter bullshit and I feel as though I should find this guy and punch him the face. >(

Part of being in a relationship is compromise and considering the other person's feelings/thoughts/wants/desires/etc in certain matters. He's doing none of that, and it isn't fair to you.

But that's just my opinion. I just hate seeing you miserable and blaming yourself for something that is clearly not your fault. That's all. ♥

[icecoldblue]

I talked to him and he says he's not trying to do that, which I believe, but I'm just not sure if I should we willing to give him a second chance? I mean, I only just pointed it all out to him, but people...well people don't change, do they?

[eyesofshinigami]

Still sticking with my angry Hakkai icon...

I read your edit, and yeah. I know that sounds horrible and I don't even know this guy, but GRRRRRR.

No, people like that don't usually change. He probably doesn't see anything wrong with his behavior, therefore will see no reason to change it. And what a remarkably stupid and selfish thing to think... "Just because I had a great time means that EVERYONE will have a great time! :D :D"

-___- I'm sorry if I'm sounding rude or anything. I just... GRRRRR

/ragequit. :P

[icecoldblue]

Naw, you don't sound rude. More like realistic.

That is probably the worst part of this whole thing. I don't think he really understands how hurt I feel or that he really feels sorry. I just don't get that he gets it!

[vestaka]

Honestly?

It sounds like he's still in the high school mentality of a girlfriend. Which is a pretty lady you have on your arm while you hang out with your friends. I've met a lot of guys who have that mentality and trust me, they aren't worth it in the long run.

If you're dating seriously you should look for someone who cares about *you* and not about how well you work as an arm ornament while they're paying attention to their buddies. (Ideally you should BE one of their friends so they like hanging out with you. Yes. Alone. Two people going to a movie to share company with each other and then going out afterwards to talk *to each other* about their thoughts on it. Stuff like that).

You deserve better sweetling.

[icecoldblue]

I think you're probably right about that. I mean, I don't think he doesn't care, I just think that he's careless. He doesn't think about what I want, it's about what he wants and what's going to be the best for himself. Basically, just a selfish mentality. And like I said, people don't really change.

God knows my dad kinda wants to kill him and THAT will go over real well.

[silvercaladan]

Honestly sweetcheeks? I'd be really tempted to leave you and go party in the French Quarter too. I'm not really sure which one I'd pick, cuz its a pretty situational thing and I wasn't there/your bf haha.

But not that callously, and when tossed in with all of the other context its pretty fucking ridiculous. I mean, he could have at least walked you home or made all the other friends wait up, or given you money for a taxi ride or something. but "see ya later bye" is.... pretty dumb. did he even ask you if you'd be okay alone? Also, you will NEVER have a great time at a raucous party if you're tired and have school the next day. Its like, a rule of the universe.

[icecoldblue]

Honestly, it's not so much that he left, because it's not like I don't think he can go off and make his own mistakes/have fun without me, but it was the fact that he just kinda peaced out on me and left me there before I even had a change to really think about it. Like, we won, and then they were like

[silvercaladan]

Yeah, that's cool to be mad about. I mean, wtf, he's your boyfriend, he doesn't get to say HEY BYE and then run off without a word. He couldn't take five minutes to talk to you alone?? Its cool if he wants to run off, but there's seeing what you want to do slash how you feel first.

And yeah, if you're looking for something serious, and he's not? You're gunna want to either get that straight, or cut it off. No sense in wasting time and worry on a kid who cares for neither. Especially when there's gotta be someone out there waiting for you to dote upon/dote back.

[silvercaladan]

PS MY BEST WISHES.

And when you come up this weekend we can paint the town red.

[jisuk]

You can do better.

[icecoldblue]

I can.

I broke up with his last night. It was a really good, clean breakup. We sat around drinking wine for two hours afterward so I think things will be okay. We just discussed how we're at different places in our lives and really, that's okay, just so long as we ended it before people got hurt.

[jisuk]

Ah, good to hear. Good luck. <3 <3