You are trying, this is good. In two more months you will realize that you have come a bit further. I personally don't see how one can get over a multiple year relationship in a matter of a couple months ---but I will stop myself before I begin to get catty or overstep my bounds. I do not feel that you have a "personal problem". Keep trying and with time, one day you will notice that it is a faded sting that is in the process of healing as opposed to a fresh wound.
I'm sorry, I really have no helpful advice. You speak of my greatest fear.
I guess you can't really rush these sorts of things, can you? Just wallow in your own misery for a while until you can breathe again--or, at least, that's what I'm assuming happens in these situations.
No, this was very helpful. It's good to know I'm not a complete loser for feeling this way. I was beginning to have my doubts.
If he's pretending, he deserves an Academy Award. No real communication or effort in two months, cold responses when I tell him what I'm thinking, not bothering to read my last email--I don't know, sounds like he's pretty clear on where he stands and what he wants, and it obviously isn't me. And I'm okay with that (or will be), but he could've told me that from the start instead of stringing me along these last two months. I could be over this fucking phase by now
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Thanks, Jake. That actually does make me feel a lot better. A lot. You're right. People can't go backwards. I guess I just really wanted us to be able to move forward as friends, but I don't think there's a hope of that, now. I'm just--some guy he used to date. I'm not even a friend of his, like Jean was, or the girl in Florida he dated briefly. Hell, he was kinder breaking up with Sarah the crazy RP chick (and he told her to kill herself). I don't know. It hurts to lose. It really, really hurts to lose.
And I am embarrassed, if only because I was dumb enough to share those feelings with him.
i wish i had some good advice for you, but i feel like everything i could say would sound amazingly cliche and probably inauthentic since i've never really been there myself. but <3s for you all the same, bill. things will work themselves out in one way or another.
Take heart in the fact that everything to say, at this point, is cliche. People still haven't found a better cure for breaking up than time, it seems. ;)
Indeed, in the end, everything will work out the way it was meant to.
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I'm sorry, I really have no helpful advice. You speak of my greatest fear.
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No, this was very helpful. It's good to know I'm not a complete loser for feeling this way. I was beginning to have my doubts.
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And I am embarrassed, if only because I was dumb enough to share those feelings with him.
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i hope you have fun on your date tonight, eeee!
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Indeed, in the end, everything will work out the way it was meant to.
Thanks <3
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