Comments | friendly_crips: Sometimes I really don't enjoy being right

nightshade1972 in friendly_crips

Sometimes I really don't enjoy being right

Dec 17, 2016 20:56

I've suspected for some time that I'm autistic. That's on top of all the other neuro stuff going on--partial agenesis of the corpus callosum, abnormal sinuses, abnormal pituitary, Chiari I malformation, hydrocephalus, epilepsy, cerebellar gait ataxia, ocular strabismus ( Read more... )

conditions: autistic spectrum, diagnosis

Comments 7

dark_phoenix54 December 18 2016, 17:28:35 UTC

I'm so sorry. That's shitty of your mom and I'm surprised the doctor didn't pick up on stuff- how in the hell did your mom find a doc that was so out of it on the strambismus?!?! He must have mentioned surgery and she turned it down.

nightshade1972 December 18 2016, 17:33:56 UTC

Yeah, I'm fairly confident that's what happened. Can't prove it now, but it wouldn't surprise me. At all.

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nightshade1972 December 18 2016, 18:13:29 UTC

Thank you.

:-)

dimity_blue December 18 2016, 20:04:50 UTC

I'm sorry your parents suck. Whatever their reasons (it didn't occur to them, they prefer you disadvantaged, they buried their heads in the sand...), you deserved better.

sammason December 19 2016, 08:36:14 UTC

Our Rhodie still deserves better. It's not too late to say that a parent was self-obsessed, to reject the blame and to love the person who has always deserved love. Knowing Rhodie, I think she's well on with that healing.

baratron December 20 2016, 09:50:29 UTC

I really do empathise with you. I have several friends with narcissistic, control freak mothers, and the stress and anxiety caused by growing up in that environment. In addition, my boyfriend, a former partner, and an online friend of many years are all autistic adults with abusive mothers (at least one of them also a narcissistic control freak). Of course, they did not "become autistic" because of their mothers, it's a complex genetic neurological condition. But the lack of caring and active abuse made a big difference to how they coped as children and adjusted into adulthood. If their mothers had recognised that they had difficulties in some areas and tried to help them, rather than punishing them for being "deliberately naughty" or "stupid", that would have made a difference regardless of whether the medical profession recognised "high-functioning" autism at the time. Other autistic friends who had love and unconditional support from their parents coped with their differences better, even if they had to wait until adulthood for a ( ... )

nightshade1972 December 20 2016, 13:38:52 UTC

Thank you for your kind words. It's helpful to know there are ppl who understand.

:-)