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Old Friends

May 08, 2005 12:06

I met an old friend on Friday, and that was really neat. He looked different and the same all at once. His voice was almost the same, with changes I couldn't put my finger on. I could see the boy inside the man. It was almost like stepping back in time, or interleaving the past with the present, in a good way. A painless high school reunion? ( Read more... )

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Dosti means friendship in Hindi tamago May 8 2005, 19:36:29 UTC

I've been thinking a lot about this topic lately. Mind if I dump here ( ... )

Re: Dosti means friendship in Hindi flit May 8 2005, 20:23:17 UTC

Please dump! This is really interesting ( ... )

Re: Dosti means friendship in Hindi tamago May 8 2005, 21:41:23 UTC

Thanks ( ... )

Re: Dosti means friendship in Hindi neko_san May 9 2005, 01:25:39 UTC

yeah on group interactions.

also, i don't have much energy for dealing with people, and i live with a people, and i work with huge gobs of people, so there's a huge negative amount left for interacting with other "friends-type" people. *sigh* oh well.

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pobig May 8 2005, 20:17:21 UTC

The high-school to adulthood shift you mention reminds me of the few pages I've read out of Bryan Lee O'Malley's graphic novel Lost at Sea. Ideally one shouldn't tie oneself in knots over personal relationships, but I guess it's a tough balance sometimes.

flit May 8 2005, 20:35:03 UTC

Right... I don't think it's a bad thing that some knotty personal relationships are part of that, and that I might never open the door to it again ( ... )

cdk May 8 2005, 20:44:11 UTC

Minor Threat lyrics always come to mind when I think about this topic:One day, something funny happened
But it scared the shit out of me
Their heads went in different directions
And their friendships ceased to be
I've lost touch with every single one of my high school friends, too. We were a really tight-knit group, but one by one, A would get in a fight with B, and B would disappear and find a new group of friends... I was never A or B, so in the end I had a lot of friends who didn't like each other anymore. And then I went to college and found a new group of friends. I try to get back in touch with my high school friends sometimes, but then I drop the ball again, and the next time it occurs to me I'm not sure what the point of picking it back up is - I don't believe I won't drop it again, and I can't see why they would, either.

flit May 8 2005, 20:49:51 UTC

Right... there's some of that, too. We reassemble ourselves so much in that time of our lives!

It's weird to feel like I could still click with them and connect with them, but it might not keep me from dropping the ball again anyhow.

amberley May 8 2005, 23:25:58 UTC

The dog friend and cat friend idea is very interesting.

I'm reminded of possibly useful links to
Five Geek Social Fallacies and cadhla's Six Types of People Theory.

neko_san May 9 2005, 00:47:02 UTC

tired and woogy. somethng to say about:
Keeping contact with people is very hard unless they don't mind periodic times when I'm just inside myself dealing with my own thing.

I've (unintentionally) dropped lots of relationships, and have decided that the best way is just to start again and not worry about "making up" for mistakes and lost time. Usually both people feel like they have made mistakes, and it's no good for both to be paralyzed by them. I try to just pick up and continue as if nothing has happened, and most of the time the other person is happy to do the same.