Comments | finstergrrrl: ok, so what i actually wanted to say.

finstergrrrl

ok, so what i actually wanted to say.

Jun 04, 2006 18:48

um, this is in particular aimed at my female-identified friends who are now or have recently been in relationships with guys of one sort or another. (but i'd love to hear from anyone with a thought ( Read more... )

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jinxremoving June 4 2006, 23:14:19 UTC

whatever i say here is probably going to sound like fairly obvious platitudes, but here goes anyway ( ... )

finstergrrrl June 5 2006, 01:34:15 UTC

see, this is why you're wonderful.

yes, you're absolutely right. people are almost never as weird about this stuff as i wind myself up to think they're going to be.

angel_machine June 5 2006, 01:31:54 UTC

yay for windowshopping.

look, a friend at work is bi. she's also in a relationship with a guy. they're about to buy a house. and the two of us talk about hot chicks all the time.

and my boss is gay.

and i'm still all about gay rights and writing letters to bible-thumping fuckholes.
even if i was straight, i'd be about it.

so... stop worrying so much. i love you.

finstergrrrl June 5 2006, 01:33:20 UTC

:) i love you too.

i know, i worry too much.

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jinxremoving June 5 2006, 13:03:18 UTC

"i blend!" - i like that one.

finstergrrrl June 5 2006, 22:35:07 UTC

i second that!

finstergrrrl June 5 2006, 22:35:57 UTC

you're making more sense than you think. i'm glad you said so.

twostepsfwd June 5 2006, 16:51:08 UTC

honestly, this reminds me of one of the reasons i am grateful to be single again and no longer partnered with a man. it is nice to feel accepted as a dyke, and visible as a dyke ( ... )

finstergrrrl June 5 2006, 22:38:39 UTC

i do know what you mean about the involvement issue. that's part of why i feel as though i should be involved politically if i want to maintain my standing, as it were, in the queer community. not to mention it just matters to me.

your last paragraph in particular really speaks to me. "acting like we belong there" is the hard part for me - i've so convinced myself that i no longer belong and i want to belong. i've convinced myself that my privilege precludes that belonging, and i don't want that to be the case.