Comments | fatshionista: ignorance on the internet, go figure

kimbahlee in fatshionista

ignorance on the internet, go figure

Feb 20, 2007 14:06

so, there is this forum that has at least one member subscribed to our community. and they have taken ...an interest in mocking us, stealing our photos, and just generally being assholes towards this community.

i'm not one to put things behind friends-only posts in communities, but this has really gotten me to think twice about it. and that makes me ( Read more... )

e-issues, disgust, discussion

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rosewater February 20 2007, 20:23:06 UTC

Yeah, I've just been thinking about this, and honestly, it makes me want to NEVER friends-lock my pictures. Ever.

We're about visibility. We're about refusing to feel sorry for taking up space, for having flesh, for consuming or not consuming as we choose. We're about NOT hiding, NOT capitulating to people who think women's bodies are theirs to control. We're about being unabashedly curvy in bad taste, or a stumbling block.

I do find this thread sickening, and I wouldn't think less of anyone who wanted to start locking her posts to avoid being targeted by these turds. Believe me, I wouldn't. And it's not that I think it would be counter to the community's goals. But the way that I personally choose to interact with fat has to involve making myself a potential target. It's not like hiding saves you from ridicule, anyway.

Plus, I feel like for every 10 or 20 guys who are laughing, there's one of them who just got a boner and went "oh."

amen, sister. kimbahlee February 20 2007, 20:32:01 UTC

...you just said everything i wanted to say, but couldn't. not because i didn't have the words, but because i didn't have it in me. and that's the most surprising thing that i realized out of this whole slimy affair- i figured i was enough of a vocal proponent for fat acceptance, that i'd be able to say the exact same thing. it shocked me when i couldn't.

so thanks for being a stellar role model about this. really. :-)

Re: amen, sister. rosewater February 20 2007, 20:34:33 UTC

I kind of surprised myself, actually. Because in actual fact the whole thing does make me sick and angry -- because I saw friends of mine on there, and because one of them is using my best friend's photo (run through a fucking FACE TRANSFORMATION program, so what the hell's your point?) as an icon. I mean, I'm fucking boiling mad. But I'm glad that my response to that is not to hide (which it would have been until recently) or to go start shit (which it would have been until way more recently).

Re: amen, sister. rosewater February 20 2007, 20:35:01 UTC

(Obviously, not what the hell's your point, but what the hell's their point :>)

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sensational February 20 2007, 20:24:37 UTC

I think I'd be more offended if they were the least bit clever or interesting or even, you know, comprehensible.

beautyofgrey February 20 2007, 20:47:03 UTC

Exactly. They are losers to the nth degree.

prettydark February 20 2007, 20:24:43 UTC

I'm not sure what to say. I feel bad that members of our forum are going to be hurt by this. I'm not surprised about this... That's an asshole group of groupies of an asshole, it's like grade four played on the internet by adults. It's like expecting fat advocacy out of Howard Stern.

theoryofgravity February 20 2007, 20:26:58 UTC

It's like expecting fat advocacy out of Howard Stern.

Well said.

applestomatoes February 20 2007, 20:41:43 UTC

agreed

sensational February 20 2007, 20:41:47 UTC

I didn't even realize who that guy was... but basically, we're looking at a forum for people who think an internet troll is awesome and cool. They are, like, sub-trolls, and deserve even LESS notice than trolls usually do.

The web is weird.

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theoryofgravity February 20 2007, 20:25:02 UTC

HAHAHAHA, I was skimming the post and saw that my bitching about the Kiyonna dress is on there. Hilarious.

It sucks, and it's a shitty reminder of how cold people can be, but eh, it's part of life on the internet. I am sure people think far worse things of me on a daily basis, but it sure as fuck doesn't stop me from living my life.

Possibly I just expect the worst from people, but I can't say I'm tremendously surprised.

zaftigvegan February 20 2007, 20:27:53 UTC

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rosewater February 20 2007, 20:32:22 UTC

That's actually one of meestagoat's photos which she altered with a face-transformation program. (Here's my masculinized photo, which is way more disturbing. I think meestagoat looks kinda cute as a guy, so I have little doubt that the poster is less attractive (though unlikely to be more masculine).

zaftigvegan February 20 2007, 20:34:59 UTC

i'm so sorry that messtagoat's masculinized photo is being used as an avatar for words from a hateful shithead; and that i allowed that to colour my response.

it was stupid of me.

rosewater February 20 2007, 20:39:10 UTC

Yeah, that's the part that makes me most upset, really. I mean, what the fuck. At least it looks more like her brother than it looks like her -- and her brother apparently buys countries, so I'm sure he can take care of himself.

It's a good reminder that we shouldn't fight back by sinking to their level.

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