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kimbahlee in fatshionista

ignorance on the internet, go figure

Feb 20, 2007 14:06

so, there is this forum that has at least one member subscribed to our community. and they have taken ...an interest in mocking us, stealing our photos, and just generally being assholes towards this community.

i'm not one to put things behind friends-only posts in communities, but this has really gotten me to think twice about it. and that makes me ( Read more... )

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rosewater February 20 2007, 20:23:06 UTC

Yeah, I've just been thinking about this, and honestly, it makes me want to NEVER friends-lock my pictures. Ever.

We're about visibility. We're about refusing to feel sorry for taking up space, for having flesh, for consuming or not consuming as we choose. We're about NOT hiding, NOT capitulating to people who think women's bodies are theirs to control. We're about being unabashedly curvy in bad taste, or a stumbling block.

I do find this thread sickening, and I wouldn't think less of anyone who wanted to start locking her posts to avoid being targeted by these turds. Believe me, I wouldn't. And it's not that I think it would be counter to the community's goals. But the way that I personally choose to interact with fat has to involve making myself a potential target. It's not like hiding saves you from ridicule, anyway.

Plus, I feel like for every 10 or 20 guys who are laughing, there's one of them who just got a boner and went "oh."

amen, sister. kimbahlee February 20 2007, 20:32:01 UTC

...you just said everything i wanted to say, but couldn't. not because i didn't have the words, but because i didn't have it in me. and that's the most surprising thing that i realized out of this whole slimy affair- i figured i was enough of a vocal proponent for fat acceptance, that i'd be able to say the exact same thing. it shocked me when i couldn't.

so thanks for being a stellar role model about this. really. :-)

Re: amen, sister. rosewater February 20 2007, 20:34:33 UTC

I kind of surprised myself, actually. Because in actual fact the whole thing does make me sick and angry -- because I saw friends of mine on there, and because one of them is using my best friend's photo (run through a fucking FACE TRANSFORMATION program, so what the hell's your point?) as an icon. I mean, I'm fucking boiling mad. But I'm glad that my response to that is not to hide (which it would have been until recently) or to go start shit (which it would have been until way more recently).

Re: amen, sister. rosewater February 20 2007, 20:35:01 UTC

(Obviously, not what the hell's your point, but what the hell's their point :>)

Re: amen, sister. kimbahlee February 20 2007, 23:07:12 UTC

haha, right.

thanks for the clarification ;-)

ooper67 February 20 2007, 22:22:21 UTC

Thank you for this. Really.
I was initially very upset about this, but reading this comment as the very first comment to this thread really made me think about it again and realize that you are 100% right.
I won't be ashamed of myself just because some idiot hotlinked my picture so a bunch of other idiots could look at it. I'm not even going to change the picture.

rosewater February 21 2007, 00:55:08 UTC

I'm sure they'd love to imagine that you saw the thread, went home, and cried into your loveless pillow.

You're winning just by being happy -- happily married, happily fat. You're untouchable.

netgoth February 21 2007, 00:27:02 UTC

We're about visibility. We're about refusing to feel sorry for taking up space, for having flesh, for consuming or not consuming as we choose. We're about NOT hiding, NOT capitulating to people who think women's bodies are theirs to control. We're about being unabashedly curvy in bad taste, or a stumbling block.

While I'm admittedly a new member, this is what the community means to me. The ability to say "This is the body I was given, and I want to look as fabulous as I can in it because it's about -me- liking how I look - not -you- liking how I look."

Thank you for posting that. And thank you to -all- the mod team for handling this with diligence and courage in the face of intarweb asshattry. I know that this kind of behaviour from anyone can be tough to deal with, so mad kudos to the community on the whole for being a beacon to those of us still struggling to accept ourselves as we are.

slickgothgurl February 21 2007, 00:46:36 UTC

I feel like for every 10 or 20 guys who are laughing, there's one of them who just got a boner and went "oh"

truth be told, it's more like for ever 10 guys who are laughing, 8 of them are laughing with a boner.

the ones who laugh the loudest at fat chicks are the ones who want to be inside them the most.

it's true.

rosewater February 21 2007, 00:52:51 UTC

Yeah, you know, I totally believe it. Totally.

sundaysunday February 21 2007, 03:28:44 UTC

I'll admit I had a minor panic freakout when I read the post and I was about to go lock all of my old posts because I can't bear it when someone makes fun of me and there's a lot of old trauma from school that still rules my brain every day, but your comment made me change my mind. Thank you.

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