so, there is
this forum that has at least one member subscribed to our community. and they have taken ...an interest in mocking us, stealing our photos, and just generally being assholes towards this community.
i'm not one to put things behind friends-only posts in communities, but this has really gotten me to think twice about it. and that makes me
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We're about visibility. We're about refusing to feel sorry for taking up space, for having flesh, for consuming or not consuming as we choose. We're about NOT hiding, NOT capitulating to people who think women's bodies are theirs to control. We're about being unabashedly curvy in bad taste, or a stumbling block.
I do find this thread sickening, and I wouldn't think less of anyone who wanted to start locking her posts to avoid being targeted by these turds. Believe me, I wouldn't. And it's not that I think it would be counter to the community's goals. But the way that I personally choose to interact with fat has to involve making myself a potential target. It's not like hiding saves you from ridicule, anyway.
Plus, I feel like for every 10 or 20 guys who are laughing, there's one of them who just got a boner and went "oh."
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so thanks for being a stellar role model about this. really. :-)
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thanks for the clarification ;-)
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I was initially very upset about this, but reading this comment as the very first comment to this thread really made me think about it again and realize that you are 100% right.
I won't be ashamed of myself just because some idiot hotlinked my picture so a bunch of other idiots could look at it. I'm not even going to change the picture.
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You're winning just by being happy -- happily married, happily fat. You're untouchable.
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While I'm admittedly a new member, this is what the community means to me. The ability to say "This is the body I was given, and I want to look as fabulous as I can in it because it's about -me- liking how I look - not -you- liking how I look."
Thank you for posting that. And thank you to -all- the mod team for handling this with diligence and courage in the face of intarweb asshattry. I know that this kind of behaviour from anyone can be tough to deal with, so mad kudos to the community on the whole for being a beacon to those of us still struggling to accept ourselves as we are.
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truth be told, it's more like for ever 10 guys who are laughing, 8 of them are laughing with a boner.
the ones who laugh the loudest at fat chicks are the ones who want to be inside them the most.
it's true.
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