i think it was labor day when you arrived.

[falltotry]

i don't like it when holiday weather is not dazzlingly lovely, thus today i am not out on my bike, and i could be considered to be "wasting" my first work-sanctioned holiday ever because i am sitting on my bed (though not exactly in my underwear, so that's something at least) bittorrenting episodes of house and wondering why i am not enjoying it as

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[vertebreak]

i wish i had an answer to your question in the second paragraph, however, i want to respond to it: sorta-kinda-recently, someone who is/was(?) part of a certain "community" (it's more of a scene if you ask me) here was outed as a rapist. while i don't know anyone directly involved, i do have friends who are friends of and acquaintances with those who were sexually assaulted by this individual. anyway, i had a discussion with one of these friends concerning whether or not "exiling" those who still associate with aforementioned individual from the "community" is the right thing to do. we never came to a conclusion. personally, i feel that all friends/confidantes of individuals who commit sexual assault are not part of any "community" *i* want to belong to...though i don't know how this community as a whole should respond to these people. what do you think?

p.s. - i moved a couple of weeks ago and i'm finally able to exchange mail with people. point is, i want to be your penpal!

[falltotry]

i would really like to be a part of a scene which actually takes care of its own and says to people who are known to be in relationships with sexual predators "you are unwelcome, i have to ask you to leave" not only because it seems like it's morally right or something but also because it's the effing respectful thing to do (i'm assuming the person their friend/lover/etc. assaulted is a part of the aforementioned scene as well). i'm not sure whether or not i am. i guess this stems from my friend being contacted last week (as in the original question), and her asking me if "yes, i am planning to ignore you forever because your boyfriend is scum" was an appropriate response and me agreeing vehemently that it was. she wanted to run it past a few more of our friends before she wrote back (because i guess she felt that since this girl was technically contacting her collective, it wasn't her place to respond personally), and i am really hoping i'm right in assuming they'll agree as well

[vertebreak]

same here. i'm disturbed by the way the situation i spoke of has been dealt with by the community i'm surrounded by. (i'm not sure if i want to consider myself part of the community i'm speaking of, either.) anyway, i agree: i think your friend's response is entirely appropriate.
this is something that has been on my mind, too. i'm not sure what the solution is, or if there really is one since people in "activist"/"radical"/queer/whathaveyou communities never seem to agree on any one thing. i DO know that neither i nor my friends want to be anywhere around people who refuse to quit associating with sexual predators, though. it's pretty disheartening (not to mention disgusting) when members of a so-called "radical" community do NOT handle the issues of sexual assault and misogyny in a truly radical way.

!!!! so stoked! do you want to e-mail me your address? if so, i'll send you mine.

[falltotry]

i will totally email you my zomgreal!address and then awesomeness will ensue!

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