i think it was labor day when you arrived.
i don't like it when holiday weather is not dazzlingly lovely, thus today i am not out on my bike, and i could be considered to be "wasting" my first work-sanctioned holiday ever because i am sitting on my bed (though not exactly in my underwear, so that's something at least) bittorrenting episodes of house and wondering why i am not enjoying it as much as everyone else seems to. possibly it is because i am not a fan of meanness. and i have a sneaking suspicion it may also be "badly written". we shall see.
a question. say, just for example, you find out someone is a rapist. he is summarily ostracised from your community. later, his baby mama contacts you on a completely unrelated topic. you have never met this girl, and don't, in fact, know she is ****'s girlfriend until it is pointed out that she might be. you write back asking if she is. she responds in the affirmative, asking if her previous comments are nullified by her associations. would your answer be "yes, a thousand times yes!" because the first party forfeited his place in the activist community by his actions and she, by defending those actions (tacitly or not, i have no idea) has essentially done the same? i am very interested in what people think about this. if this example is too personal, i can widen it to, oh let's just say the michigan women't music festival. as most, if not all, of you are aware, they have a spectacularly shitty policy regarding who they will even let on the land which boils down to "only women-born-women allowed kthnx" and is a too-obnoxious-to-be-considered-ironic twist on "don't ask, don't tell" for transwomen. basically, anyone who plays the festival or presents a workshop or whatever else goes on there, is supporting this policy. so does this negate whatever it is these women have to say? i've definitely known people on both sides of the debate, and it is something i have been constantly reassessing since highschool.
anyway. i think i am going to read norwegian wood again. possibly sputnik sweetheart as well, since i recall vaguely liking sumire even though i know i wasn't supposed to, and i liked k as well, even though he was such a pushover. perhaps because i am a little like both of them. i am careless with people's feelings (though not to that extent) though i don't mean to be, it's just because i don't notice things sometimes, and i also let people be careless with my feelings, telling myself they don't mean to be, they just don't notice it. the thing which makes me more like k, though, and what makes me like him even though he ought to exasperate me, is that i am not a heartbreaker.
this is my theory anyway. i don't know if i am right.
if it had to come right down to it, i would admit that i liked ripley better without all the electronic beats. i really liked those at first, but maybe i am just more comfortable being sad, and her really pretty, melancholy music was more my style that what could be classified as "dance remixes" were they not the original songs. i still like her, and i still like her music, but of her full-length albums (i'm not counting goldman. i effing loved goldman in all its rock & roll glory but it was a band and it doesn't count), i really think lover was the best. but maybe that has to do with me and not her.
and every year, on labor day, i listen to that song. i don't know if traditions really mean anything. but i haven't been able to listen to ripley since last year. this is not a quality issue. this is a really lame "i seriously can't listen to that anymore" pity party for myself. like with mirah. i used to love mirah. i'm sure she's still just as lovely as i remember her.
i wish i had more usericons. what this means, probably, is another ill-concieved post at likeavalentine. i know they come but once a blue moon.
a question. say, just for example, you find out someone is a rapist. he is summarily ostracised from your community. later, his baby mama contacts you on a completely unrelated topic. you have never met this girl, and don't, in fact, know she is ****'s girlfriend until it is pointed out that she might be. you write back asking if she is. she responds in the affirmative, asking if her previous comments are nullified by her associations. would your answer be "yes, a thousand times yes!" because the first party forfeited his place in the activist community by his actions and she, by defending those actions (tacitly or not, i have no idea) has essentially done the same? i am very interested in what people think about this. if this example is too personal, i can widen it to, oh let's just say the michigan women't music festival. as most, if not all, of you are aware, they have a spectacularly shitty policy regarding who they will even let on the land which boils down to "only women-born-women allowed kthnx" and is a too-obnoxious-to-be-considered-ironic twist on "don't ask, don't tell" for transwomen. basically, anyone who plays the festival or presents a workshop or whatever else goes on there, is supporting this policy. so does this negate whatever it is these women have to say? i've definitely known people on both sides of the debate, and it is something i have been constantly reassessing since highschool.
anyway. i think i am going to read norwegian wood again. possibly sputnik sweetheart as well, since i recall vaguely liking sumire even though i know i wasn't supposed to, and i liked k as well, even though he was such a pushover. perhaps because i am a little like both of them. i am careless with people's feelings (though not to that extent) though i don't mean to be, it's just because i don't notice things sometimes, and i also let people be careless with my feelings, telling myself they don't mean to be, they just don't notice it. the thing which makes me more like k, though, and what makes me like him even though he ought to exasperate me, is that i am not a heartbreaker.
this is my theory anyway. i don't know if i am right.
if it had to come right down to it, i would admit that i liked ripley better without all the electronic beats. i really liked those at first, but maybe i am just more comfortable being sad, and her really pretty, melancholy music was more my style that what could be classified as "dance remixes" were they not the original songs. i still like her, and i still like her music, but of her full-length albums (i'm not counting goldman. i effing loved goldman in all its rock & roll glory but it was a band and it doesn't count), i really think lover was the best. but maybe that has to do with me and not her.
and every year, on labor day, i listen to that song. i don't know if traditions really mean anything. but i haven't been able to listen to ripley since last year. this is not a quality issue. this is a really lame "i seriously can't listen to that anymore" pity party for myself. like with mirah. i used to love mirah. i'm sure she's still just as lovely as i remember her.
i wish i had more usericons. what this means, probably, is another ill-concieved post at likeavalentine. i know they come but once a blue moon.